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A recent scientific study shows that it takes 90 days to break an addictive pattern in the mind. Start your own Log of your journey to 90 days! Post here to update us on your status and to give each other chizuk to stay strong! See www.guardyoureyes.com/tools/90-day-chart.

TOPIC: ChizukSC 90 day challenge 7729 Views

Re: ChizukSC 90 day challenge 06 Jan 2019 04:14 #338225

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bh, up to day 8, and really feel like my new approach is helping. Shavah tov to all.

Re: ChizukSC 90 day challenge 13 Jan 2019 01:27 #338400

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Over two weeks now (day fifteen). Slipped a little over shabbat, but BH feeling good and feel like my new approach is giving me a much better chance for long term staying clean. Shavah tov.

Re: ChizukSC 90 day challenge 13 Jan 2019 06:09 #338402

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I want to explain my slip and a tool I developed and used. I have honed in the fact that I sometimes masterbate when I am stressed/lonely/emotionally down. In other words, I use the pleasure from the dopamine to blot out the pain.

If you read my entire thread, I once dated a girl who I thought the world of and cared deeply about. We ended up not getting married, but I think about her often, what could have gone different, hoping she is ok, wishing I could be there for her, and overall missing spending time with her.

I happen to know that she's going through a rough time right now, and I was thinking too much how much I would want to be there for her, to support her emotionally through this rough time and how sad I was that I couldn't do that anymore and I started to slip.

At the time, I made myself consciously think, why are you doing this? Why does it feel like a need? What is pushing you towards this compulsive action? 

Once I became mindful of the fact that I was doing this just to try to blot out the emotions (and this was not a need), but rather a self medication technique, the struggle lessened and the slip stayed just that, a slip.

Hope that's helpful for some folks.
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