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The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:)
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Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 18 May 2022 04:28 #380854

Hakolhevel wrote on 18 May 2022 01:52:
I'm pretty sick today. And for some reason it makes me want to watch porn more than usual, even though I have no energy.

Maybe im just seeking an escape from feefeeling sick.

That happens, it stinks. I get in when I am fasting also. 

I don't have any good ideas, hang in there.
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Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 18 May 2022 05:38 #380861

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Vehkam wrote on 18 May 2022 02:14:
Are you bored? Lonely? Call a friend…

All of the above
My Thread:The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:)

I'm not a slow learner, I'm just quick to forget" - Eli Nash

A bit of honesty and less over confidence might help me - Imperfection

Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 18 May 2022 13:07 #380862

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How are you feeling today. I am always up for a phone call….
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Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 19 May 2022 06:14 #380902

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Hakolhevel wrote on 18 May 2022 01:52:
I'm pretty sick today. And for some reason it makes me want to watch porn more than usual, even though I have no energy.

Maybe im just seeking an escape from feefeeling sick.

refuah sheleima!
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Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 19 May 2022 11:16 #380913

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Refuah shleima. Sick days are massive triggers. they usually are accompanied by low energy/low mood and a general feeling of guilt for being unproductive. Sick thoughts start entering the mind - "obviously Hashem does not "hold of me", because if He did, He wouldn't make me sick when i can't get anything done". 

A respected psychologist once commented that it appears the adult brain has a slightly negative default setting (which may have been acquired through life's experiences), and it takes koach to be positive. He said statistics show that when people are tired, and absurd number of people report imaging the levaya of themselves or that of a close relative or friend.

Regarding fasting, there are rabbanim that permit eating on the lower category fast days for guys seriously working on getting clean. It seems that fasting is a major trigger for many typical people, and it is recognized that the cycle of trigger/falling/yi'ush/restarting is taxing to the mental health of most guys.
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Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 20 May 2022 03:46 #380960

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Vehkam wrote on 18 May 2022 13:07:
How are you feeling today. I am always up for a phone call….

Thanks for the offer. I may take it up one day
My Thread:The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:)

I'm not a slow learner, I'm just quick to forget" - Eli Nash

A bit of honesty and less over confidence might help me - Imperfection

Re: The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:) 20 May 2022 03:47 #380961

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Hashem Help Me wrote on 19 May 2022 11:16:
Refuah shleima. Sick days are massive triggers. they usually are accompanied by low energy/low mood and a general feeling of guilt for being unproductive. Sick thoughts start entering the mind - "obviously Hashem does not "hold of me", because if He did, He wouldn't make me sick when i can't get anything done". 

A respected psychologist once commented that it appears the adult brain has a slightly negative default setting (which may have been acquired through life's experiences), and it takes koach to be positive. He said statistics show that when people are tired, and absurd number of people report imaging the levaya of themselves or that of a close relative or friend.

Regarding fasting, there are rabbanim that permit eating on the lower category fast days for guys seriously working on getting clean. It seems that fasting is a major trigger for many typical people, and it is recognized that the cycle of trigger/falling/yi'ush/restarting is taxing to the mental health of most guys.

I can definitely identify with the middle paragraph, a default setting of negativety.
My Thread:The Road To Being Honest With Myself (and others:)

I'm not a slow learner, I'm just quick to forget" - Eli Nash

A bit of honesty and less over confidence might help me - Imperfection
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