#58
If we look at ourselves at the end of the day to see how useful others were to us, then we are using others for ourselves. But if we look at ourselves at the end of the day to see how useful we were to others, then we are using ourselves for others.

#59
We cannot go back and make a brand new start, but we can start from now and make a brand new end.

#60
We may not be 'there' yet, but with every passing day we are making progress and getting closer than we were the day before. We are not looking for perfection, we are looking for progress.

#61
By nature children are happy even without anything specific, because life itself is the best gift one can have. So you don't have to add anything in order to be happy, you've got to drop something, and then you will have real happiness in life.

gyehelp2017 wrote on 09 Sep 2019 13:23:

"you've got to drop something, and then you will have real happiness in life."
im sorry but i lost you on the last part

sleepy wrote on 10 Sep 2019 01:35:

I think he was referring to dropping the lust related behavior in order to achieve the happiness that is inherent and natural in the world

#62
If we crave something real, then when we actually achieve it we can be content. But if what we are craving is not real, then even if we do achieve it we are not content, because we did not really get anything.

Dave M wrote on 10 Sep 2019 13:14:

got you. i thought gye'17 was saying that if you drop lust youll automatically be happy,but there are those who are not lusting znus, but are still not happy since they  still lust money or glory .

Dave M wrote on 10 Sep 2019 13:14:

It's actually relevant in all of life. These are truly words of wisdom and very well stated. Once we grow up and are into chasing the good things in life, we get lost in the chase and so does our natural childish happiness. We so badly want what we don't have that we forget to enjoy what we do have, to enjoy life's simple daily joys. We can also be weighed down by our possessions and responsibilities, even our accomplishments. All those things we 'added' to our lives can actually rob us of that childish easy, happy go lucky mentality. So, to 'get back' to natural happiness we may need to let go of some of these. This is how I understand this quote, at least.

#63
​Our problem is not that we can't change, our problem is that we don't believe that we can change.

#64
If we are not willing to work and change ourselves, then our problems can be endless and we can be helpless. But if we are willing to get to work and change, then with Hashems help nothing will stop us!

#65
We ask Hashem to except us as we are, and give us what we need, and Hashem is asking us to except whatever He has in plan for us. The more we learn to except His will, the more we will learn to see how He excepts us no matter what.

gyehelp2017 wrote on 16 Sep 2019 13:57:

Accept x 4

#66
AMAZING means, taking ones ability's and using them the best you can. PERFECT means, taking ones ability's and using them the best someone else can. Don't forget, we don't have to be perfect to be amazing!

#67
How can we not feel good about ourselves when we know that Hashem wants our sobriety even more than we do. And when He wants something it's for real. So yes, our struggle might be hard, but knowing that Hashem is looking out for us and wants every bit of our hard work, makes it so much easier.