If I find someone who is sober 16 years & says that admitting powerlessness has brought his sobriety & serenity and closeness to Hashem; then I see someone's posts claiming to 'know better' how the REAL way to become a good clean Jew, but he is sober only for 40 days, WHOM SHOULD I LOOK UP TO? Who's derech should I try to copy?
....especially if the long-term sober guys sound much more humble than the other guy.
In other words, should I rather learn from a bunch of humble guys' personal experiences or one arrogant guy's ideas?