Thank you very much for your advice and for breaking it down I found it clear and helpful. And yes of course I will stay in touch with Reb eerie.

Just to clarify because I thought I addressed some of your points in my question. Truth is that I didn't write it so clearly so I'll  make a few points to clarify.

1. I am not talking about discarding shmiras einayim. I mean to tackle it after I am in a stronger position with M.
2. I am ready to be mindful of it even now and try to improve.

My question is like this. While I appreciate your point that if you are using your eyes to feed your lust that means you are still feeding the lust mania inside, I do not feel like I'm ready to say I simply will not look at all every time I go in the street or the store. As opposed to my battle with M and P where I'm ready to say you know what I'm done with this. In addition I think that if I would try to get myself to do that it would feel to me like the whole fight is too overwhelming. Also in addition is that I think based on past experience when this mehalech actually worked for me that once I've cleaned myself from constant sex obsession  by breaking out of P and M I will find the battle of looking much easier than taking it on together as one big battle.

I think I made my question more clear and thank you benhashembh for helping me do that

Thank you for the detailed follow-up.

It could be quite reasonable for you to say that never looking is too much to expect right now, but, the huge difference will be (and what you seem to be saying you are doing) that you are working on shemiras einayim, just starting with a stable beginning. If you focus on those shemiras einayim wins and appreciate the meaning of those accomplishments, over time, you should BezH be able to build on that foundation as you progress.

Have a wonderful Shabbos!

jewizard21 wrote on 18 Jun 2025 05:52:

Hi everybody! I wanted to give a progress report.

Baruch Hashem I have good news to share. I have been clean from P and M now for a week. Although I will say that I have much more hard work ahead of me, it's still an accomplishment that I am proud of and admittedly its been some time since I've been able to do that.

I will say from past experiences that I know it will get harder soon but that's no reason not to appreciate where I am. Friday afternoon has always been a really bad time for me especially a long Friday afternoon in the summer. It was such a relief to go into Shabbos not feeling horrible about what I just did. 

Anyway, here's hoping that my seven days becomes seven hundred and then many more. Also shout out to all you guys on here and Reb eerie for keeping me going! I really think I've felt my confidence in my abilities go up exponentially from gye; its mentors and very much so from the forum. 

May we all have  a great week of reaching our kedusha goals and making the one above proud!
                                           
yours truly, jwbf  

Hello everybody! So.... can't say I'm gonna enjoy this but here goes:

Life is full of both ups and downs in particular I'm talking about victories and... some non- victories.  And I'm here to tell you about one of those non victories. I was in a black mood on Friday probably a combination of different factors some related to a big difficulty I'm going through recently and some related to stuff I've  been dealing with for years. Anyway to make a long story short I started chipping away at my gedarim but didn't actually fall until Motzay Shabbos. Yes I know I'm supposed to call someone when I feel like that but sometimes that's part of your feelings is that you don't want to talk to anyone.

Anyway I'm thinking forward now. I believe I know the proper perspective, number one that in the last couple weeks I taught myself that I don't have to do anything, I can handle an urge and not give in, I am no ones slave('cept the lord's of course) . Also I know that that my eventual success in breaking out of this habit means much more because of my failures. In fact in a general sense there would be no meaning at all to victory if not for the existence of failure so therefore failure gives meaning to my victory and must be accepted as part of the struggle on the road to victory.( I have also spoken with my epic mentor reb eerie who is a source of unwavering wisdom and chizuk about what happened and how to go forward.)

I'm posting this because despite this knowledge it sure is a lot easier knowing that the oilam is cheering me on! So with that I say once again as I restart my count while simultaneously building on my previous achievement DARN THE TORPEDOES, FULL SPEED AHEAD!!!!!!! 

p.s. and of course signing off with a tefilla that Hashem should set make this the time I break free free along with all the guys here on the forum

Have you checked out the book the battle of the generation.  Reading that every single night was a big part of my Avoda in breaking free. 

wishing you tremendous success 
Vehkam 

Hi everybody!       
          
                   This week is crucial for me. The reason why is because the first few days after a fall is when I am the most likely to give in and more than that totally give up. I Know that until my fall i gained plenty but the YH always works full time to turn a fall into full 180 and turn me in completely the other direction instead of letting my fall just be part of my journey. Today was no exception with the YH whispering in my ear during the seven o'clock hour that you should just know that you want this really bad and you don't really have motivation not to do it. BH I got past it with a little distraction and other tactics. But still it felt so strong I'm not sure exactly how I didn't fall, there must have been some heavenly intervention.

                    So anyway because this week is important for me to get back on track i figured id post more often and let you guys know that BH I'm at day two clean and imyh many more! Thank you guys!  
                                                                             yours truly, jwbf