4 months sober but I find I’m lying to my wife to get out of trouble.  I realized that because of me she’s on high alert and I’m getting overscrutinized and that’s causing me to lie about little things like how much news I’m watching, did I speed when driving, how much money I spent and on what.  And the more I do it the more I feel like masturbating.  So recently I lied and stupidly.  My wife found mexcannmoney on me from our recent trip and I lied about it and then told her the truth. However she doesn’t believe me and is certain I did something else.  So I’m stuck in the liars mess despite bringing sober.  I really screwed up and she may divorce me over it.

slow down my friend.
I would love to have a longer convo about this.
but it is SOO late for me right now.
I can relate to some degree to stuff you are dealing with.
I also felt the need to lie.
Even in a past few months, I white - lied about something benign I just didnt want to deal with her being mad at me again....
Next time something like that happened I chose to be TOTALLY truthful...
I lost my wife's trust for a while.
I also kept feeling like she wants to end our marriage....
It took a long time... but our marriage is SO much better now than it ever was...
If you want to speak about it email me chaimbreakfree@gmail.com