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Re: Wake Sleepy up! 02 Sep 2019 14:36 #343329

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Re: Wake Sleepy up! 10 Sep 2019 16:36 #343481

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id like to comment on a statistic that i saw here on a newsletter and ask the olam if i have a point:

3 Myths About Pornography Use In Couples You Might Still Believe

by Maybruch, R' Shmuel (See all authors)

(myth #2)2 – Religious Couples Don’t Have Porn

"Another common belief is that religious people, whether single or married, use pornography less, or not at all. This is patently not true. In my practice, I see individuals both in relationships and not committed that are devoutly religious and struggle with pornography use.

This is borne out by an astounding study. A group of researchers analyzed Google search terms on a state by state basis. They found a clear trend. States that are generally identified as more religious and fundamentalist had a higher prevalence of pornographic search terms on Google. Think about that: the more a state identified as religious, the greater amount of sexual terms were searched for. Another group of researchers was incredulous, so they independently replicated the same study – and found the same results."

etc.etc.,and  i quote further:

"Clearly, increased religiosity does not indicated less pornography use. It appears to sometimes indicate the opposite."

is this to say that this statistic applies to frum Yidden also?the more frum ,the more porn use?if not , what was the point of the post?

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Last Edit: 10 Sep 2019 16:38 by sleepy.

Re: Wake Sleepy up! 10 Sep 2019 22:02 #343488

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I don't know the point of the post you refer to, but I don't have much belief in study's/surveys in general. There are always many other factors that can twist the results one way or the other. (For example in this case, maybe in the 'less religious' states people were found more often with prostitutes and therefore had not much use for Google)
"Studys" such as these can only be sure to be accurate when done by Someone who can see and know all. I only know of one Hashem.
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Re: Wake Sleepy up! 13 Sep 2019 16:45 #343551

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i have to share something that gave me a chizuk, and hope others will get a chizuk as well.
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I read an essay about a man who saw a cocoon ,and noticed the butterfly inside trying to make its way out of the tiny hole.The butterfly struggled mightily to exit the cocoon,and spent several hours trying to force its body through the small opening.Finally it appeared as though the butterfly had reached an impasse ,and could not proceed any further.The man felt sorry for the butterfly,so he took a pair of scissors  and cut a large opening through which the butterfly  could leave.Sure enough ,the butterfly easily exited the cocoon,but the man noticed  that the body was contorted and its wings were shriveled.He kept the butterfly ,figuring that eventually,as it grew, its wings would develop and it would be able to fly. The man failed to understand that the struggle to exit the cocoon has the effect of transferring fluid from the butterfly's body to its wings ,which is how they develop.He thought he was doing the butterfly  a favor  by ending its struggle, but in reality, he thwarted  its growth. 
  Sometimes , a struggle is precisely what we need in life to develop our "wings" so we can soar and reach  great heights.
(Living Emunah volume 1 pg 90)
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Last Edit: 13 Sep 2019 18:07 by sleepy.

Re: Wake Sleepy up! 17 Sep 2019 08:20 #343599

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does anyone know where the guy who posted a question,besides being an aveira , whats wrong with m******** if its not an addiction,did it get deleted ,i wanted to reply something
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Re: Wake Sleepy up! 17 Sep 2019 11:44 #343602

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sleepy wrote on 17 Sep 2019 08:20:
does anyone know where the guy who posted a question,besides being an aveira , whats wrong with m******** if its not an addiction,did it get deleted ,i wanted to reply something

I think Bob Dylan posted it on the public chat. Thank God I didn't respond because I would've gotten censored again.
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Re: Wake Sleepy up! 17 Sep 2019 13:36 #343605

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sleepy wrote on 17 Sep 2019 08:20:
does anyone know where the guy who posted a question,besides being an aveira , whats wrong with m******** if its not an addiction,did it get deleted ,i wanted to reply something

Someone asked that question in the public chatroom
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