We got 40 days till Yom kippur start please let us all get through this misery of falling

dear Happyyou, how exactly do you want us to help you?

Ur gonna do it just say that phrase everyday to hashem

Happyme,

Maybe it's time for some new techniques in your struggle. Have you read the Handbooks? More importantly, have you tried to work them?

I'm not Hashem so I can't know exactly what you need, all we can do is learn new tools to help us stay clean, if something works, great, if not - on to the next idea.

Some basic examples are minimizing the struggle to only one day at a time, when lust hits to immediately daven to Hashem to save me, and to altogether live with the understanding that wer'e vulnerable and weak and therefore must avoid triggers as much as we can.

All the best!!!!!!!!!!!

Chaim

ChaimCharlie wrote on 16 Aug 2012 06:36:


Hmm Chaim just what are you trying to say?

Thanks, JKG. I fixed that.

Happyme,

If you want to use Elul as a tool, that is great.

A rabbi I know once said that in Elul one should make a list of goals in life and how he thinks he can achieve them.

See yourslef in twenty years time- do you still want to be a "struggler" by then, or do you want to be way beyond and above it... a happy, confident, FREE Torah person who helps others?

Chasima tova- i hope i helped.

Kevin

Happyme0 wrote on 15 Aug 2012 16:43:


Since time is short I wouldn't necessarily focus on sobriety, I mean try it by all means but don't beat yourself up. One thing that would really pay off though is to review the davening for Yom Kippur, e.g. say three words then think, say three words then think. And plan to beg Hashem not to let you go down like this. The single most effective thing that can happen to you to make you change is issurim.

One year at kol nidre I told Hashem "Ribono Shel Olam, I am a sadist, please don't let me go like this." I got thrown out of the house on parshas metzorah that year. My wife had all my money and I lived off handouts in a loft for six months. But in the end it was a yeridah l'tzorech Aliyah. Now I actually have shalom bais.