I came across this really old sefer called "yesod teshuva" and in the derech of really old sefarim, he gives you a list of aveirois and the proper "teshuva" [i.e., amount of fasts, type of yissurim one should inflict on himself and for how long etc.] so i'm scanning through the sefer and he has "teshuvos" for "ba al haniddah", "menashek niddah", ba al hapniyah", moitzi zera levatala" and everything in between you can possibly imagine. and in the derech of really old sefarim he outlines complex "teshuva plans" for each one of these aveirois
then, he surprised me  :o ois 44 is about "chet hamishgal" i totally didn't get it, what about everything until here, wasn't that all different expressions of chet hamishgal  ??? what puzzled me even more was the surprisingly light sentence he gives here:
"and if his soul has sinned with the lusts of mishgal he should intensify in his efforts to break the lust and remove the seal from upon his heart, for this is the 'cure' of this particular chet and he should distance himself very far away from it. and according to the greatness of his previous love of this, so shall be the disgust he now feels to it, and he should always remember the problems this created for him for this is a trap for man to lose his assets, his body and his soul!"
so what's going on here? what about all of the fasts a man has to undergo, where did they go?
i think that even the mechaber of this sefer, also recognized that a SA is simply sick, his problem isn't once being boiel a niddah or a pniyah, it's much deeper, he is simply addicted to lust "mishgal" in any and every size and form, the solution for him isn't standard teshuva, that won't help him at all, what he needs is to intensify in his efforts to break and remove the seal from upon his heart and to distance himself very far away from it
FOR THIS IS HIS CURE

בענין כלי המכונה
אינטרנט אשר רבים
חללים הפילה,
ובאשר מרן החזו"א
זצ"ל פסק על גיוס
בנות יהרג ואל יעבור,
והנה הכלי המשחית
הזה הוא הרבה גרוע
יותר. ובוודאי גם בזה
יהרג ואל יעבור

Most working people need it... I generally find that the rabonim in Israel tend to declare blanket statements like the one above and are disconnected from reality

There is an amazing pirkei heichalos (i think- it's brought down in Mishna Berura and Shulchan Aruch HaRav siman 125, and mbd has a beautiful song on it)
תאמרו ותגידו לבני go and tell my sons
מה שאני עושה בשעה שמקדישים ואומרים קדוש קדוש קדוש what i do while they say "holy holy holy"
ולמדו אותם שיהיו עיניהם נשואות למרום לבית תפלתם and teach them that they should raise their eyes heavenward
ונושאים עצמם למעלה and raise up their bodies.
כי אין לי הנאה בעולם כאותה שעה for i have no greater pleasure IN THE WORLD like that time
שעיניהם נשואות בעיני, ועיני בעיניהם when their eyes are raised to me and i look back at their eyes!
באותה שעה אני אוחז בסא כבודי At that time i grasp the throne of my honor
בדמות יעקב in the likeness of Yaakov [which is engraved on the[i] kisei hakavod[/i]]
ומחבקו ומנשקו ומזכיר גלותם וממהר גאולתם I hug him and kiss him and remember his children's exile and hasten their redemption!
ad kaan.
So i thought of a pshat, that it's possible to say that the teitch here isn't about when yidden say Kadosh Kadosh Kadosh during davening, but rather בשעה שמקדישים at the time when they want to make themselves holy, and they do this by raising their eyes to hashem- by zugging ah bissel tehillim- then, ein li hanaah baoilam!
[this also explains "teach them to raise their eyes לבית תפלתם", if we're talking about davening, of course it's [i]lebeis tefilasam [/i]but the answer is that it's referring to when the man is in the greatest place of tumaah, und doch he raises his eyes to hashem- ein li hanaah baoilam!]

so my dearest holiest sweetest friends ZUG AH BISSEL TEHILIM
YOU WILL GIVE HASHEM THE GREATEST PLEASURE

i just read in midbar kedeimos from the chida who brings from the holy arizal that when a person is in trouble he should be mazkir his zechuyos, the chida adds however, that sometimes your zechuyos can be used against you [for instance if we say i have a great zechus for that time i abstained from p**n, the satan can say, yeah but look at all the other times when he did fall] you should therefore only remind your zechusim beremez. so next time i have trouble i'm gonna yell loud and clear (while switching my truck gear with one hand and reachin' for my trusty old tehillim with the other hand)
WOODFORD!!

This morning during Hallel a thought struck me-
The Shla"h writes that there is a difference between the meanings of the words tuv and tov. Tuv means unconditional good, while tov means noticeable good, that the good is noticed. Good is only noticed when it follows bad, therefore it is preferable to receive tuv rather than tov, because when receiving tov, bad precedes it.
The Kedushat Zion [Bobover Rebbe who was murdered by the Nazis [i]ym"sh[/i]] writes that according to this Shla"h, the correct nusach of Birkat HaGomel is to say: "Mi shegemolcha kol tov" (Because the man was saved from danger) "Hu yigmolcha kol tuv selah ^{(although the Kedushat Zion probably said "tiv" not "tuv"— during my latest seforim shopping spree I noticed that a new sefer has just been released, titled Havooras HaChaseedim it's about 5-600 pages long, just on this topic- whaddevah)}.
Based on this, I thought, "Hodu laHasem ki tov" so the question is, if he saved me from something which makes it tov as opposed to tuv- "Hodu"?! Lo miduvshach velo miuktzach!!! like Matisyahu said "the only who can get us out of this mess- the one who put us here"- did I ever ask him to get me into this mess?! Why in the world does he deserve my praise?
So the answer is "Ki leolam chasdo" Dude! Mei'ito lo teitzei ha'raot! g-d is good, he's awesome, even when it seems to us that it's tov not tuv-
LEOLAM CHASDO
ROCK ON!

We say by davening:וכל חטאות עמך ישראל תשליך למקום אשר לא יזכרו ולא יפקדו עוד ולא יעלו על לב לעולם
so the quesion is obvious, how is it possible for hashem to forget הלא אין שכחה לפני כסא כבודיך
the answer my beautiful holy friends, is that the tefilla is not talking about hashem forgetting, that ain't happening. we are asking that we, we should forget velo yaaleh al libeinu leolam!