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Re: HELP-SOS 01 Mar 2011 17:35 #99073

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Ah shark shtart-nisht foon ah turnstile.
Admin put these lines here cuz he likes 'em:
"The heart needs to be broken when will-power is not enough"
"Get off the 18-Wheeler and onto a tricycle!"
"The heck with me, what can I do for you?"
"I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons!"
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Re: HELP-SOS 01 Mar 2011 18:44 #99081

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Why did he die die die die die die
theres a shark in the mikvah!
someone had to say it ;D
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Re: HELP-SOS 01 Mar 2011 19:52 #99093

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tzaddik90 wrote on 01 Mar 2011 16:29:

R chaim in stencils i bet he was never yet mentioned by name on this forum


That must be because Talmudei Chachamim don't have a need for this site!  ;D
(Except for one Talmid Chochom who did not find Recovery through his Torah.....) 


Or maybe it is becuase we are afraid to mention Torah outside of the Beis Medrash Section of the Forum?


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Re: HELP-SOS 01 Mar 2011 20:14 #99096

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What does R' Chayim in stencils have to do with keeping my zipper up? Woops! There, we mentioned it!
Admin put these lines here cuz he likes 'em:
"The heart needs to be broken when will-power is not enough"
"Get off the 18-Wheeler and onto a tricycle!"
"The heck with me, what can I do for you?"
"I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons!"
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Re: HELP-SOS 01 Mar 2011 21:22 #99110

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What does R' Chayim in stencils have to do with keeping my zipper up? Woops! There, we mentioned it!


Someone asked (over the telephone) if Rav Shmuel Kaminetzki Shlita were asked about GYE & he gives a Haskama, but if an askan were to bring a computer to him & show him how supposedly Yeshivish guys on a website to help us with these aveiros are making jokes about it. What would he say?

I responded that we deal with the subject matter seriously. The jokes are about other stuff. They are necessary to make GYE an enjoyable place.


Where does this joke fit in??    Or was I wrong in my answer to him?
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Re: HELP-SOS 01 Mar 2011 21:34 #99114

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I recieved this via PM.


What does R' Chayim in stencils have to do with not bypassing my computer's filter? Woops! There, we mentioned it!




If the problems is in the cheftza, meaning the filter is broken then stencils wont help
If the problem is the gavra, meaning the gavra keeps compulsively looking to escape life by bypassing his filter then if the gavra can be exposed to the beauty and pleasure of the torah, possibly through learning the stencils then maybe he can use the torah as his preferred escape and not keep bypassing his filter
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Yes, I also had this Yetzer Horah before I 'found' the internet. I just wanted to use a very generic term. 
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Re: HELP-SOS 03 Mar 2011 07:57 #99376

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oy, im posting too much on the stress management debacle, tentacle, mandible, whatever
i have a lotta juicy posts for my sos raimbow thrrad, esp. abt my new field of egged bus therapy, we'll see if we get to it 2day, iyh
and YES, i DID quote admiral ackbar on the stress mangmnt thread!
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Re: HELP-SOS 03 Mar 2011 17:17 #99428

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Good night moon

Good night Dov

Good night thread

i had a nice day. Thank you Hashem
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Re: HELP-SOS 03 Mar 2011 17:20 #99430

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don't forget to set up perimeter around the park behind your house and count the money in the env.
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
~Inna beshem ZS

Give, Forgive
~Cordnoy

The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
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Re: HELP-SOS 03 Mar 2011 17:34 #99431

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tzaddik90 wrote on 03 Mar 2011 07:57:

and YES, i DID quote admiral ackbar on the stress mangmnt thread!

everyone loves the heilige Guard!
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Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
~Inna beshem ZS

Give, Forgive
~Cordnoy

The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
~TZ
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Re: HELP-SOS 03 Mar 2011 19:04 #99447

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Good night, John-boy....(the Waltons were before your time)
Admin put these lines here cuz he likes 'em:
"The heart needs to be broken when will-power is not enough"
"Get off the 18-Wheeler and onto a tricycle!"
"The heck with me, what can I do for you?"
"I do not particularly care exactly which "lav" suicide is. I'm not interested in it for other reasons!"
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Re: HELP-SOS 04 Mar 2011 05:45 #99532

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dov
fyi i am actually a senior citizen from levov originally, and i used to watch Charlie chaplain on ellis island, while playing hopsies after buying a sugar-lick from the milk-man.

WHO is the young man here?

you probably wouldnt even admit that you never watched the silent films as a youngster!

and al capone and bugsy siegel and i, we'd all learn daf yomi together on easy street in the speakeasy

you think nowadays its hard to be a frum jew with all the po*rn and internet? what abt. when we were in volozhin during the prohibition!

bufalo head nickels, steel pennies, model t, the write brothers in kittyhawk cal., THOSE WERE THE DAYS
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Re: HELP-SOS 04 Mar 2011 06:30 #99538

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Hey my father's family is from Lvov also! Maybe we're related?!
ישראל אע"פ שחטא ישראל הוא
If you're connected above, you won't fall down below - Reb Shlomo
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Re: HELP-SOS 05 Mar 2011 19:02 #99650

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oy so much to write, only time now for maybe one post
I'm doing well. Shmiras einayim is not good but not terrible. i'm clean;i attribute this to all the posting here, support of friends, and the healthy habbits that i am slowly incorporating into my life everyday. I also know i could thwart the shmiras einayim problem too if i had more time to re-read handbook, etc., just i'm very busy at this moment.
On the green egged bus boarded two ppl of the other gender. I wanted to look around. I held my self back.
Originally, i wanted to look, and I justified it by saying that if they (i'm being too general to avoid triggers) own something pretty, i can see what it is and ask my "family" to get it.
There are more than many reasons why this pattern of thinking is absolutely nuts and insane.
This is an example of my addictive mind.
I used logic to distort the illogical. I countered to the lust freak show addict inside of me as follows- Even if i do look, and they do have something i'd want my "family" to buy, who says it would satisfy me.
As a matter of fact, it wouldn't. Iv'e already spent too much money on this addiction, aside from the money i'd stolen long ago (in my teenage-BOCHUR YEARS) FROM OTHERS.
I never got satisfied except when i put all this stuff away or threw it away. Or gave it back.
And even if my "family" bought it, i would get the thrill for maybe a day, and then it'd signifacantly diminish. Part of what i want when i see someone else's thing, is the "someone else", if you know what i mean.
lastly, for lack of time, even if it helped me, i'd just see another thing tomorrow and want to repeat this whole process again, and what's the point.
And so i didnt look anymore.
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Re: HELP-SOS 05 Mar 2011 23:10 #99662

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The challenge never ends. As long as youre alive! Keep fighting! We need you on our side!
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