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Wife Upstate !!!!!! 22 Jun 2010 21:09 #71707

Moshew

Any tips to help pass the time and stay on the wagon? The summer months can be very dangerous especially for those whose families go up to the Catskills. B’H I am going into my fist post Dovid Chaim Clean Summer and I want it to stay that way. I will need all the help and support I can get especially in the evening when I am in the office alone (that has traditionally been my weakest moment).

There is always Bardy’s option of drinking myself into a stupor with old Woddford each evening but that will “open the bottle” to a whole new set of issues.

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Re: Wife Upstate !!!!!! 22 Jun 2010 21:43 #71718

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o.k. there should be a whole thread on this topic.Please feel free to be in touch with me my e-mail address is:yedidyaaleph@hotmail.com
maybe an new evening phone meeting like after 5pm Eastern time?
I definitely identify with this problem even though Baruch Hashem my wife and family are not away.... being in the office alone on the computer is a slipery slope!!
heard from 12 step program H A L T
meaning avoid getting to hungry,angry,lonely ,and tired.
seems to me that a lot of us r feeling unfulfilled in our current relationships and r yearning to connect in a healthly loving way to other like us.

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Re: Wife Upstate !!!!!! 23 Jun 2010 19:13 #71858

Moshew	At least one person cares, I will email you tomorrow. Anyone else?
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Re: Wife Upstate !!!!!! 23 Jun 2010 20:32 #71895

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i find that for me, doing physical exercise is a great way to keep my mind occupied, despite the fact that i am a rather inactive, just-out-of-high-school kid on summer vacation. Go for a walk while listening to a shiur, find a place to shoot some hoops, go bowling (with the kids) etc. maybe its just a teenage thing about being active, but i know it works for others.

just an idea.

whatever you choose to do, hatzlacho!

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Re: Wife Upstate !!!!!! 23 Jun 2010 20:36 #71897

Ineedhelp!! OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1058 Karma: 2	yedidya aleph wrote on 22 Jun 2010 21:43: maybe an new evening phone meeting like after 5pm Eastern time? Now there's an idea! Not just for this issue but for addicition in general. Question is how to start one without someone to moderate....
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Re: Wife Upstate !!!!!! 23 Jun 2010 22:34 #71912

yedidyaaleph Current streak: 2 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 234 Karma: 1	anybody else interested? whe is available to moerate?
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Re: Wife Upstate !!!!!! 24 Jun 2010 17:40 #72013

David712 Current streak: 26 days OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 5 Karma: 0	yedidya aleph wrote on 22 Jun 2010 21:43: maybe an new evening phone meeting like after 5pm Eastern time? I definitely identify with this problem even though Baruch Hashem my wife and family are not away.... being in the office alone on the computer is a slipery slope!! Sounds like a great Idea.
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Re: Wife Upstate !!!!!! 25 Jun 2010 06:42 #72131

bardichev	How about a bar b kew on dov's patio?
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Re: Wife Upstate !!!!!! 25 Jun 2010 13:25 #72163

David712 Current streak: 26 days OFFLINE Fresh Boarder Posts: 5 Karma: 0	Zugst git. Nu.. Efsher???
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Re: Wife Upstate !!!!!! 28 Jun 2010 19:00 #72411

Moshew	I’m game BBQ is good!!!!! Anyway here goes nothing, today is officially Day 1, I will hopefully report back tomorrow that all went well.
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Re: Wife Upstate !!!!!! 29 Jun 2010 10:21 #72493

the.guard Current streak: 745 days OFFLINE Moderator Posts: 6438 Karma: 138	GYE BBQ on Dov's Porch Tonight everyone. See you there! ;D
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Re: Wife Upstate !!!!!! 29 Jun 2010 12:57 #72506

Dov OFFLINE Administrator Posts: 1960 Karma: 383	Yiddle2 wrote on 23 Jun 2010 20:36: yedidya aleph wrote on 22 Jun 2010 21:43: maybe an new evening phone meeting like after 5pm Eastern time? Now there's an idea! Not just for this issue but for addicition in general. Question is how to start one without someone to moderate.... OK, our porch is too small for all y'all, but the unmoderated phone meeting sounds awesome!
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Re: Wife Upstate !!!!!! 29 Jun 2010 15:21 #72513

bardichev	Bar b q Bar be kew Barbehkyoo
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Re: Wife Upstate !!!!!! 30 Jun 2010 20:50 #72668

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Sorry for ruining the fun but here are some suggestions

1. join Elya's call on Thursday night

2. Get numbers from guys to call when you feel weak.

3. get email address and chat to stay in touch

4. Go to shuirim and socail events so you will meet people and stay connected

5. talk to your wife (and kids) on webcam daily if possible.

I will IM you my email address and if you want my number IM me or email me. I am not available all day but I will return your call when I can

זכרני נא, זכרני נא, וחזקני נא אך הפעם הזה, הפעם הזה, האלקים, ואנקמה נקם אחת משתי עיני, מפלשתים

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