Chiam wrote:
k thanks Guard, I'll get to that eventually.
Ok. What you gonna be doing in the meanwhile?
Chiam wrote:
I have been working on tools like reminding myself that... excitement does not bring happiness so it's a fraud. Also, that I need to strengthen my identity and THIS IS NOT ME, THIS IS NOT WHO I AM.. I have to repeat it a million times. Those scenes that I fantasize of her and me.. that "me" IS NOT ME. It's absurd and not real. Those imaginings are fake and she is fake. She only wants my money...
... I'm new to the program
I'm also quite new. Just got this shiny truck and Im still waiting for the license and keys to arrive in the mail
Chiam,
These things you wrote - did you see them in the handbook? I don't think so - correct me if I'm wrong.
1- what you wrote "excitement does not bring happiness" does not work for me to restrict my lust at all
2- but more importantly "THIS IS NOT ME, THIS IS NOT WHO I AM" Regarding the fantasizationalityismgy you're right. But regarding the condition I'm born with to lust - It is me. And when I remind myself that it's me = being honest of my condition, which I surrender to Gd, that's what saves me
You might be new but I definitely am newer... I'm going to continue with my reading of the handbook and get back to you. I also assume different things work for different people.