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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 14 Jan 2010 08:07 #45594

Momo Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1288 Karma: 3	10x!
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 14 Jan 2010 08:10 #45596

kollel guy Current streak: 15 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 478 Karma: 1	Momo wrote on 14 Jan 2010 08:07: 10x! What?
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 14 Jan 2010 08:12 #45597

Momo Current streak: 6 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1288 Karma: 3	I was thanking 2B for offering to give me his phone number.
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 17 Jan 2010 20:47 #46350

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Kollel Guy wrote on 14 Jan 2010 07:56:

Halevi wrote on 14 Jan 2010 04:55:

Another good idea is to download hypnosis audio tracks. You can download the ones that deal specifically with stress, but really any will do. They are really relaxing.

I'm always terrified that they shtam from some kind of hindu Avodah zara.

audio tapes i don't know about but relaxation techniques are totally Ok. we have a long mesoirah al pi kaballah for focused thinking (meditation).

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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 17 Jan 2010 20:49 #46352

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Halevi wrote on 14 Jan 2010 04:55:

silentbattle wrote on 13 Jan 2010 23:12:

lamed vavnik wrote on 13 Jan 2010 21:17:

silentbattle wrote on 13 Jan 2010 18:10:

I know that when I'm dealing with stress, relaxation breathing techniques help relax me...are you familiar with any of them?

none . enlighten me.

You can do this no matter where you are - you can even do it while standing, walking, or driving. The easiest way to do it, though, is when you're either sitting or lying down, and you can close your eyes.

Now, breathe slowly, in through your nose, and out through your mouth (well, mouth and nose, just exhale). Now, here's the key - usually, when we take a deep breath, we breathe into our chest, expanding our chest. When we do that, though, our body naturally speeds up, becoming more tense.

Instead, keep your chest level, and breathe into your stomach (well, not really into your stomach, but it'll look like your stomach is expanding). Take slow breaths, and do this for several minutes. As you breathe out, each time, you should start to feel yourself relaxing, bit by bit...

Try to keep your mind relaxed and blank...if unwanted thoughts come in, don't push them out, just let them slide away...

Hope that helps!

Another good idea is to download hypnosis audio tracks. You can download the ones that deal specifically with stress, but really any will do. They are really relaxing.

hey thanx!

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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 17 Jan 2010 21:03 #46358

silentbattle Current streak: 1628 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 3734 Karma: 15	Hope it helps...feel free to PM me to discuss further.
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 17 Jan 2010 23:56 #46408

WeWillNotBeForsaken	17 clean days. Its starting to get real tough Just wandering if anyone is around for some words of advice. I hate asking for (mushy) stuff like this - but feeling really weak these days.
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 18 Jan 2010 00:36 #46412

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WeWillNotBeForsaken wrote on 17 Jan 2010 23:56:

17 clean days. Its starting to get real tough

Just wandering if anyone is around for some words of advice.
I hate asking for (mushy) stuff like this - but feeling really weak these days.

Hang in there, mate! You've worked too hard and for too long to stop now.

If you're really feeling the pinch, I want you to close your eyes and meditate for a few minutes on how you would feel AFTER having acted out. Meditate on the feelings of shame and remorse. On how you have to reset your count to zero and on how all the momentum you had gathered, from all the hours spent on this website, has come to an abrupt halt. Imagine how unhappy and disappointed with yourself you would feel - how powerless and small. Meditate on all of those things and resolve that no matter what, you are not going to put yourself through that because it's not worth it and you owe it to yourself to stay strong.

Don't give in!!!

G-d bless.

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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 18 Jan 2010 00:44 #46413

silentbattle Current streak: 1628 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 3734 Karma: 15	Please remember how good it feels when you walk away from the illusion - and remember, that it IS an illusion. The yetzer hora wants to tell you that giving in will feel SOOOO good, but you know that you'll feel so much happier if you do what's right. You've felt it. What will keep you smiling? You know he's lying to make a sale...laugh in his face and slam the door!
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 18 Jan 2010 01:37 #46426

WeWillNotBeForsaken	sigh. thanks
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 18 Jan 2010 01:40 #46429

Ineedhelp!! OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1058 Karma: 2	Hey WeWill! You take it one moment at a time. Dont look too far ahead. You are doing great I can tell. Its normal to have these feelings. Think about it YOU ARE 17 DAYS CLEAN! Thats really amazing. Now go build a connection with somone. Do a random chesed. Build a connection with Hashem. If you need any gchat time send me a PM or email me -Yiddle
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 18 Jan 2010 01:42 #46431

silentbattle Current streak: 1628 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 3734 Karma: 15	Hey - WWNBF - how're you doing, bro?
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 18 Jan 2010 01:49 #46434

WeWillNotBeForsaken	Hangin in there. :-\ I think I am saved (for now) once again by you guys. Thanks all for your moral support!
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 18 Jan 2010 01:54 #46437

silentbattle Current streak: 1628 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 3734 Karma: 15	Glad to here it...you inspire me! I suspect that you inspire all of us, having the strength to speak up and ask for help - that's the red button, and it takes a lot of strength! Wow! I'm honestly astonished at how amazing you are!
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Re: I'm about to FALL!! 18 Jan 2010 03:01 #46442

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There's an old chinese saying "if it's worth saying once, it is worth saying twice" I personally hold it to be stupid, since some things must be said once, and only quickly, in-passing. But I posted this on silent battles thread:

With every urge that you overcome to not watch a video, you get a schar EQUAL to every dollar pumped into the industry. Every hour and ounce of talent, creativity, humor, and artistic design!!

With every urge you overcome not to look at p__n, you get schar EQUAL to all the effort, talent, money, creativity, and hours of photo-shoots that goes into the GLOBAL INDUSTRY.

And you get a level of kedusha equal to the tumah.

Everyone that gets to 90 days, is truly a tzaddik. If we only worked on our other areas (LH, Emmes, Halacha) this SA forum would be full of tzaddikim!!

Source: R tzadok in tzidkas Hatzaddik

Interestingly I once heard a mp3 shiur from R Nissin Kaplan on kabalas hatorah. He started off with the words from ma'ariv
"Ki hem chayeinu. Veorech Yameinu. Uvahem Nehgeh Yomam Valayla...
"Ki hem chayeinu. Veorech Yameinu. Uvahem Nehgeh Yomam Valayla...
"Ki hem chayeinu. Veorech Yameinu. Uvahem Nehgeh Yomam Valayla "
These words burnt so deeply into me that i still hear them in my ears every time I take the time to read the words slowly. And that was on a MP3!!
I also had version "b" of the shiur, which was apparently given later that night, I guess some people couldn't be there for it, so he gave it twice ?? Nut when he tried to say it, with the same pauses, it was meaningless, and he gave-up after only two recitals. No some things LOOSE their potency when said twice. Just an idea I wanted to share.

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