I was recently discussing with my wife about infitility problems and how sad it is for some people that we know etc. She mentioned a certain fact to me that gave me a shiver right through my spine. I want to tell you about it in case this is something that may help overcome the problem of masturbation.
She told me that when a frum couple have to begin infitility treatment, before even entertaining the possibility that the husband may be the problem, and doing anything about it, the first thing that must be done is to make certain that the wife is not the problem. This can take months and months and months - maybe longer. Why is this? Wont checking out the husband at the same time make the chances of having a child improve? The answer is...Yes it will. But since this will require the husband to produce a sample of his semen, it cannot be done until we know for a fact that his wife is not the source of them being childless. So sever it is, that even though they may have long been able to hold and cradle a child of their own...to wake up to the sound of a crying baby.... - it cannot override the issue of wasting sperm even that is considered wasting.
Now think about what we are doing.....
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