I'm still here.
OK for now.
We'll see what happens later on.

Thanks for responding Struggle. This is usually a "dead" time on the forum. Things pick up in a few hours.

Momo i really love you man.
Not only are you going through a rough time at work...
Not only are you stressed about the coming holiday (arent we all?)...
Not only do you work on a computer all day
But you are also in nida time....
What an army is up against you!
Wow!

But you didn't fall Sunday!
You didn't fall Monday!
You didn't fall Tuesday!
You didn't fall last week even though the whole week you were buggin out and in nidda period(pun intended)!
You didn't fall the week before!
You didn't fall the week before that!
How many hours of intense inner battle?!
How many times of saying no?
You are Yehuda Hamacabee facing a tremendous army,but coming out victorious one time after another.
You are Dovid destroying Goliath.
You are a Jew.
And don't you forget that.
You are a powerhouse,brother.
And I'm proud to be on the same team as you
Keep making me smile
-uri

Yah! Uri's up and smiling!

How are you feeling? Is your fever gone?

Momo wrote on 16 Sep 2009 06:56:


I know it's quiet here. That's exactly why some of us here now. In case anyone needs help.
And good cliff story there. Big shkoyach for walking away from the edge.
If you need some extra rope to pull you back, don't hesitate to let us know!
I mean you already did in your other post...

yea right..
if only...
but its not as bad as it was before
its on and off...
im taking medicine for it
the doctor said that apparently i went straight from one virus to a new one.
baruch hashem.
no coincedence.
how u holding up?
if u call me,i might not be in the mood to talk for long cause my head is really bothering me..
sry..
-uri

Struggle, thanks for your support. Good to know you've got me covered.

Uri, sorry to hear about your being sick. The good news is usually our lust is on low when we're sick. Also, you could use the rest.

Here's a photograph of us getting ready to fight the Y"H. http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/8/81/JediKnights.jpg

;D

which one is me?

Uri wrote on 16 Sep 2009 07:08:


I don't know, but I'm the good looking one.  ;D

Uri wrote on 16 Sep 2009 06:56:


For the sake of emes, I just realized I miscalculated. Sorry. I think I've been clean 15 days, not 3-3.5 weeks as I originally posted (I corrected my original post). That would make it last week, and the week before that, but not the week before that.

That's OK. One day at a time.

Momo wrote on 16 Sep 2009 06:34:


That's terrific! So far all I hear is all the successes that you've been having till now! Sunday, Monday, Tuesday and and all the many days leading up! Stay far away from the edge and by no doubt you'll continue kicking the y"h's tuches!

[b]I feel like a hypocrite giving advice at my stage but I can't help myself, so please ignore this:[/b]

As for now, stop thinking about making it till Y"K. We can only focus on the present moment, and if we can't ACT on the future now, there's no point in thinking about it either. It will only challenge us more by making this all seem much heavier than it really is.

In listing your stresses, it might present a clearer perspective if you'd list this amongst them (i.e. not only do I have stress at work, about R"H, etc., but I'm also stressed by the urge to act out). Seeing it this way may be saying that acting out is part of the problem - not the solution. All too often we try to use it as a coping method to deal with other stresses, but only to find that in and of itself it alone is a major source of stress. Once we're clear that this is one of our "stresses" we can then proceed to find a healthy way to deal with it, instead of using it to cope with other things. Acting out never really solved anything.]

Keep making us proud!

Your friend,
2B

Tomim2B wrote on 16 Sep 2009 07:29:

what a brilliant point by tomim!
its so true what he said:
the urge to act out is a big causer of stress.we need to leave that cycle.
same thing with cigarettes.
they dont relieve stress.
they just relieve our need for nicotine.
Acting out just deepens us in this cycle,while staying clean kills this cycle.
And then well be alot more relaxed.

But i diagree with u about one point tomim.
i think y'k is a good thing to have in mind.
itll give momo a clear goal and help him stay clean and persevere.
Aside for that,shkoyach atsum!
-uri

Wow 2B, you're dead on! Great post. Don't worry about feeling like a hypocrite at this stage. We all rise and fall, but that shouldn't stop us from giving chizuk and advice to each other. In fact, helping another is a way of recovering, by "getting out of our own heads".

You're right, my short term goal is day by day, but my long term goal is until Y"K. I'm not even thinking about 90 days.

Here's the big one: The urge to act out IS one of my stresses, and it doesn't solve anything. But, what is the solution? What's the healthy way of coping with it?
I know, surrendering it to G-d. But so many of us have asked, how?

Momo wrote on 16 Sep 2009 07:37:


Check this out: http://www.chabad.org/multimedia/kabbala_toons/default_cdo/aid/562100/jewish/Filling-the-Hole.htm

Guard, see what you started!?  > :D ;D

man!
to infinity and beyond!!!!!

OMG! What an amazing site.

Check this one out. It almost made me cry!

http://www.chabad.org/multimedia/kabbala_toons/default_cdo/aid/982396/jewish/Big-Trouble-Meets-Small-Shofar.htm