Re: reaching out for help b'sha'as ha nissayon....

Are there guys from the cherva who have solid recovery and can help out in a moment of weakness.. either by phone or txt  E-mail
Is their an a emergency contact list?
btw what can be said to someone who is reaching out for help when slipping and about to fall?

I fell, I'm sorry :'(

I didn't pray enough, I should have fought harder!

I dont know if I can ever be free of this.

I fell too...not a good thing...

I'm sorry to hear that We Will walk, do you know what caused your fall? Is there a better way which you can prevent it in the future? Talk to yourself, and to G-d....  Good job on posting !

And again....this is not good...

New job, let the filtering issues begin once again!  I thought this was old news.  Not any more!  :-[

You can be free. Even if you just fell, again and again, you can.

Walk away. Plan ahead. Remember that every minute, every second you're clean, is incredible, and forges a connection with hashem that even the angels cannot fathom (adapted from the chofetz chaim - he's talking about lashon hora, but it's actually possible that the original line is about our issue).

Every second is important, a victory worth celebrating,

Walk away - it's worth it. Focus on that. Think about how good it feels when you're staying clean.

Insead of falling, I am writing this.  I am trying to become a more active member of the Guard community.  Thank you all for your support. 

Day 3 clean is feeling good, but based on my track record it won't last more than about a week.  In honor of Tisha B'Av lets make this clean streak last the duration!

Amen!

Again, I am about to fall. Instead of falling I will write here.  Let me give chizzuk instead of falling.  Rabbosai, lets be mechazeik ourselves in this time of the aveilus of the churban beis hamikdash.  One of the reasons for the destruction of the first mikdash was Gilui Arayos, and kol dor that the mikdash is not rebuilt, it is as if the mikdash was destroyed in that dor.  It is OUR responsibility to bring back the beis hamikdash and bring the world back to the way it is supposed to be.  I saw in a sefer that the most painful time for a mourner is right when the tragedy occurs, while maiso mutal lefonov, because he cant help but think back to what he had, how great times were so recently in the past, and now its all gone.  By the seuda hamafsekes we all have a din of an onein, it's mamash meiso mutal lefonov, we are supposed to be in a state of shocked disbelief at was has been lost.  The least we can do is to do our part to stay away from arayos to the best of our abilities, which are much greater than we can imagine.  Lets hold each others hands, sing a hartzige niggun, learn a geshamke blatt gemara, and help in our own small way to bring the geulah!

I fell :'(.  Hashem, please help me, I want to stop, I'm not happy with this garbage, but the nissayon is so strong!  Rabbosai, please help me get my act together!  I know, I have to work the 12 steps.

Sorry you fell.

I think the only thing harder then stopping yourself from falling, is limiting a fall to a singular occurance. So if you want to make amends and show G-d that you sincerely regret your fall, Why don't you do just that?

And we can't help you get your act together, it's hopeless, the nisayon IS too strong. There is nothing you can do. You need to turn to a higher power to get you out of this (See I got you started on the Steps, already).

I don't know where to post my problem so I will do it here.

I have not posted on this form for ages, and of course I had ups and downs.

One major problem I have is my place of work. There are here some girls, a married and one not, none extremely attractive but enough for the YH to make my life tough.

Some smile or friendly word from them, innocently I am sure, would set me on fire. It is especial hard as my normal protection is off since the birth of my youngest recently.

Any tips?

I would suggest you start a thread for this so we can leave it clear for brewing storms.
I will suggest that after you are aroused stay calm, don't worry about being excited, that only makes it worse.

Also, I recently saw a thought from Rav Yisroel Elya Weintraub ZTL. Right after we we do a mitzva it is an עת רצון for tefilla. For this reason we say a מי שברך after someone is called to the Torah. He has just finished the mitzva of reading the Torah so he can daven and Hashem will listen. This is also why we say הרחמן after "benchin". we have just fullfilled the mitzva of ברכת המזון  and we can now daven to Hashem for help in our lives.
If we see a woman who excites us we should remember that if we don't look then we will have preformed a mitzva and it will be an ais ratzon to do daven, and it is more likely we will get what we want. So we should tell ourselves that if we don't look then we will have a specail merit and we will be able to ask Hashem for something we need.  Don't look and then daven a short prayer in English. I have tried this and found it to be very helpfull.

Holy that was very nice

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