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TOPIC: MI LASHEM EILAY!!! 6319 Views

Re: MI LASHEM EILAY!!! 16 Aug 2009 08:44 #12474

Tomim2B

The advantage of setting up a whitelist in your router's firmware (if your router supports that), is that it's not another "software" that can simply be uninstalled. If your router does indeed support this, I can help you with the configuration and in securing your password (so your son can not access the settings).

A hint in identifying the router for those who are not computer savvy: Aside from the flashing lights, the router usually has an antenna on it. In addition, the cables leading into the router look like oversized phone cables. Please provide me with the company name on the router, including it's specific model.

As far as Whitelist servers go, I must admit that I have no experience with them, and though I have a few ideas how they work, I'm not exactly sure. If my assumption is correct (that it is nothing more than a proxy), then you can benefit from this American service even though you might be in Israel.

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Re: MI LASHEM EILAY!!! 16 Aug 2009 09:45 #12479

Tomim2B

7Up,

Let me add, that while your being "dan your family l'chaf z'chus" is admirable, it still is important to find out what happened to your K9 installation (filters don't uninstall themselves - if they did, they wouldn't be effective). There is always the possibility that someone else in your household has been affected by the negative natures of the internet and has been tampering with the filter. This possibility can not be ignored.

Watch out for computer savvy children! Most of us wouldn't be in the position where we are now had we not been able to outsmart our computer-dummy parents.

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Re: MI LASHEM EILAY!!! 16 Aug 2009 11:17 #12497

7yipol Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder YES HE CAN! Posts: 4686 Karma: 12	Thanks for the warning Tomim. Im aware of the issue. This is why I must decide what to do about internet in general. Am I going to cancel it totally or what? On the other hand, this son could probably get past the FBIs gates even! Im currently looking into a free white list option. Will keep you updated...
	Hashem is addicted to you! Feel His hugs!"Sheva yipol tzaddik VKUM" Last Edit: by Cantwaittorepent.

Re: MI LASHEM EILAY!!! 16 Aug 2009 15:37 #12546

kedusha Current streak: 717 days OFFLINE Administrator Posts: 3167 Karma: 46	There is no easy way to uninstall K9, unless you have the password (if anyone knows how to do it, don't publicize your methods). Also, K9 allows you to whitelist certain sites.
	Just as an alcoholic needs to avoid that first sip, a lust addict needs to avoid that first slip.Slip today? No way! ;)Fall today? No way, Jose'! Last Edit: by akgye613.

Re: MI LASHEM EILAY!!! 16 Aug 2009 19:23 #12556

Tomim2B

Kedusha, there are several ways that anyone in her house could have uninstalled K9 without the password. Just off the top of my head I know of 2 such methods that take under 3 minutes time.

(In the same respect, if your router is physically accessible, it takes no more than a paperclip to revert it back to the default factory settings. This, aside from automatically removing any whitelist you may have internally configured, your family members will also have access to reconfigure the settings by using the default password, and they can cover their tracks by setting up a new whitelist - only now with their own "exceptions".)

7Up, the only way that you can be certain that your settings are safe from your tech savvy son, is to sign up with a server-level filtering service. Why don't you pick up the phone to your internet service provider and see if they can manage a whitelist for you? If your ISP is setup for this (and most are), then they should be able to service you at no extra cost.

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Last Edit: 16 Aug 2009 20:35 by bluesky.

Re: MI LASHEM EILAY!!! 16 Aug 2009 19:58 #12559

letakain OFFLINE Platinum Boarder KOTNMW Posts: 5036 Karma: 64	Don't go mom! I just got here!!!!!(puppy dog eyes fill with unbeleivably convincing tears...)
	I am proud of myself today because of who I am becoming with progress, not perfection one day at a time I am a pickle, and I'll never be a cucumber again. and pickles are YUM! my thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/6-Women-on-the-way-to-90-Days/248941-Letakains-internet-addiction-journal Last Edit: by huvaissweet.

Re: MI LASHEM EILAY!!! 16 Aug 2009 20:07 #12561

Uri Current streak: 2 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 448 Karma: 7	this is not poshut at all.i am staying out of this. uri
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Re: MI LASHEM EILAY!!! 16 Aug 2009 21:06 #12581

Hoping Current streak: 361 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 202 Karma: 0	I can not give an opinion because I have to much Negius. All I will say is that I would miss you terribly if you would leave.
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Re: MI LASHEM EILAY!!! 17 Aug 2009 02:22 #12615

7yipol Current streak: 3 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder YES HE CAN! Posts: 4686 Karma: 12	hoping wrote on 16 Aug 2009 21:06: I can not give an opinion because I have to much Negius. All I will say is that I would miss you terribly if you would leave. Really Hoping? I barely hear from you and didnt even know that you read my posts :o Im so embarrassed. I hope you havent been feeling hurt or neglected :-[
	Hashem is addicted to you! Feel His hugs!"Sheva yipol tzaddik VKUM" Last Edit: by Yitz1010.

Re: MI LASHEM EILAY!!! 17 Aug 2009 02:53 #12619

Hoping Current streak: 361 days OFFLINE Gold Boarder Posts: 202 Karma: 0	100% I don't go over to the women's section muc,h but I look forward to your advice, compassion and humor on all of the threads in the men's section. Sorry you were so surprised. Maybe I assumed that you knew how uplifting you are.
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Re: MI LASHEM EILAY!!! 23 Aug 2009 07:04 #13747

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struggle wrote on 13 Aug 2009 09:44:

I think my TV watching is something that's bringing me down. However, I usually don't watch and have pretty much taken it upon myself not to. Being in school, I find that on vacations and during exam time the downtime can be helpful. It can also be harmful, though, especially if I get into a specific show. I think, though, that if I am in a good place anyway, it won't be so bad. Recently, I haven't been in such a good place, been watching a lot of TV, one show in particular and it's been weighing down on me. I grew up in a home with TV. There is still TV there. I am surrounded by many people who watch TV and view it as ok. I agree that I should stay away, but I find it very very challenging. Today I'm going to take my sister out to a movie. She is 13 and it is an innocent movie and a good way to spend time with her. I'm not so sure what else I could do with her outside of the house. I am not interested in taking her shopping. Honestly, I'd also like to see this movie myself... I am going to commit to not watching that TV show that I got hooked on for a day. I have not watched it yet today and will go to sleep tonight without having watched it. I even emailed guard about blocking the site that I get it from, but I never went through with it.

Mevkesh, kol hakavod on this thread, with all the difficulty I find in it, I truly agree with you and have thought this for a long time.

Struggle

Mevakesh, thank you so much for starting this thread. I have not watched the aforementioned TV show since I posted that day. The one time I attempted to
do so was at my grandparents, where it didn't work anyway, and then, guess what?!, that's right, I fell. Connection, I think... I am now clean for 6 days and am not planning on watching that show so soon. I know that even in terms of the TV, i still have to take things day by day and be aware of the slippery slope, not giving in. I would like to say that I have no desire to see the show, but I feel within me that that is not entirely true. I hope and plan to stay away from it, though, again, starting from today. Shkoyach Mevakesh on the inspiration! I guess I just needed a push.

On that, did you intend for this thread to be a one time thing? I am moving it back up to the top of the forum and hopefully it will be noticed.

Today is another day, what can you do? Please read the first post in this thread by Mevakesh, he said it all.

Struggle

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Re: MI LASHEM EILAY!!! 23 Aug 2009 17:54 #13791

letakain OFFLINE Platinum Boarder KOTNMW Posts: 5036 Karma: 64	on a happy note, even though i do know how to clear the history and have full access, i've kept up my not going onto youtube. i hope i can resist at home too, not just in israel! so again, just for tomorrow, i will b''n not go onto youtube .
	I am proud of myself today because of who I am becoming with progress, not perfection one day at a time I am a pickle, and I'll never be a cucumber again. and pickles are YUM! my thread: guardyoureyes.com/forum/6-Women-on-the-way-to-90-Days/248941-Letakains-internet-addiction-journal Last Edit: by achassidisheyidene.

Re: MI LASHEM EILAY!!! 23 Aug 2009 18:05 #13792

Sturggle Current streak: 178 days OFFLINE Platinum Boarder Posts: 1706 Karma: 1	shkoyach Letakain. and i was thinking this forum is dead..., it was so quiet today... I guess no new is good news, but I felt a bit lonely.
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Re: MI LASHEM EILAY!!! 26 Aug 2009 05:44 #14253

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Mevakesh Hashem wrote on 12 Aug 2009 03:31:

Although there are exceptions to every rule, for the most part (and I say this from my experience with myself and in helping many people here) if the struggling man/woman (though its more true with men) cannot give up watching TV/secular Movies they are almost doomed to faliure.

The triggers in the visual media of today are simply too many to be able to "tune out" without totally tuning out the TV/movies.

My dear brothers and sisters, warriors of Hashem, holy Neshamos...

...You have come so far. You have made so much progress. Why throw it all away for the stupidity of TV? Why risk falling back into the old world for the vanity of hollywood?

If mashiach would walk into your home today... would your TV still remain there?

if he walked in while you were watching a movie, would you say to him "hey, I gotta pass the boredom"?

If he called you onthe phone would you tell him to "chill out, it's the 21st century"?

I don't think any of you holy Tzadikim would!

Well, we are so close...

We can smell him!

We can hear his footsteps!

We can see the signs!

He is lingering, because he is waiting for more of Am Yisroel to "wake up" and rid their lives of TV, Movies, profanity, Pritzus, etc.

The quicker we do this, the quicker he will come. It's pure and simple.

If we, the members of this holy forum, will not be the first ones to comply with what Hashem wants, can we expectthe rest of the world to do it?

We are leaders!

We set the tone for mashiach!

As Moshe Rabeinu proclaimed all
those years ago "Mi Lashem Eilay"- whoever id for Hasshem come to me!

I ,Mevakesh Hashem, proud member of the Guard Your Eyes family say to all of you today:"Mi Lashem Eilay"

Who will join me in standing up for the honor of hashem and ridding their lives of the filth that is TV/Movies?

Stand up proud and be counted amongst the warriors of Hashem!

Reply to this post saying...

.."I Bli Neder will give up_____________ in honor of Hashem"

fill in the blank with something, be it TV altogether, be it one less hour a day, be it no more movie theaters, be it no more movies at all, be it no more vulgar radio shows.....whatever you sacrafice is a Korban to hashem that will strengthen yourself as well as the rest of Klal Yisroel!

Do it for yourself, for your family, for your Guard Your eyes family, for HASHEM, master of the world!

"MI LASHEM EILAY!!!
Chazak V'Ematz!

Since we all started being alive a little yesterday, I decided it's a good time, once again, to bring this back to the front. What are you going to be makriv today?!!

Last Edit: by Whackythackypenguin.

Re: MI LASHEM EILAY!!! 26 Aug 2009 10:23 #14276

battleworn	I'm mikabel not to change the settings on "Rimon" (my server based filter) [I also have k9 and I don't know the password] until Rosh Chodesh Cheshvan and to renew the kaboloh before it runs out unless I see that it's impossible to manage. Also I won't do any searches that I don't need to, at least until Chanuka.
	Last Edit: by Jelly90.