1) A chaver who speaks/texts regularly with me, reached out for help today. His wife had been off limits for a very long time. There were very challenging moments, but with work and b'ezras Hashem he stayed clean. Today she was to go to the mikva but this morning she found blood. As he put it, being that he had been in touch with me daily, he felt comfortable reaching out and sharing this awkward personal info. As a result of reaching out, he b"h pulled through the horrendous test, which I know from my past is a recipe for acting out big time

2) A bochur in Eretz Yisroel who is in touch, texted from the bathroom as he was about to get into the shower and act-out. He said it took tremendous courage to push "send" because he really wanted to do it, but being connected saved him. B"h he is sleeping now, physically and spiritually clean.

Iy"h by you and me too!

First and foremost, I realize it was through a Power Greater than myself.

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Lyrics:

There's a moment in this journey that I gave up

My boots just couldn't walk another mile

And that cloud above me had no silver lining

I couldn't buy a break with my last dime (step 1)

Oh, but when I saw you standing there in the corner (the fellow addict)

I'd have never thought that you would have my back

But then we rolled-in like the thunder and the lighting

Threw some punches, then we had a laugh.

Just some roughed-up Desperadoes

Hanging tough through thick and thin

Kicking up dust wherever we go (ad la'kisei hakavod)

I can see that you and me are gonna be friends

Who'd have thought we'd wind up here together (moderne and chassidish, old and the young)

It's crazy that we're standing side by side

Fightin' just like two birds of a feather (fellow addicts, fighting for our lives)

Whose gonna tell us now that we can't fly? (together we CAN!)

Just some roughed up Desperadoes

Hanging tough through thick and thin

Kicking up dust wherever we go

I can see that you and me are gonna be friends

To the end, you and me are gonna be friends

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.