A 15 year old boy writes:

It's like waiting FOREVER till I actually have an opportunity to touch a female, even my wife?!

GYE responds:

Time passes faster than you can imagine. Meanwhile, focus on growing. Sex is optional, we may want it very much, but we can live fine without it. The less we feed it, the less we need it.

These years of learning to "hold back" are what build up our character so that we can later be good husbands, good fathers, and good Yidden.

Life is a challenge. It's not a picnic.

Ask Hashem for help each day. Read the chizuk emails each day.

In the zechus of holding back, Hashem will send you a wonderful shidduch one day be"h.

The Steipler says that any pleasure we could have had that was assur, Hashem makes sure we get it in some other way.

One day you will have Shalom Bayis, a good wife, a good parnassa, good children, with Hashem's help.

But if we don't hold back and take "forbidden pleasure," ch'v, Hashem could chas veshalom take away the other pleasures of life. People today get diseases, struggle with livelihood, with shalom bayis, so many problems!!

We can have so much pleasure in life if we learn to hold back from forbidden pleasures. People who give in are NEVER HAPPY. People who learn to hold back find TRUE HAPPINESS and are not slaves to their desires.

So keep strong and keep happy always!

Dov's Desperados is starting a new cycle next week, be'H, The call meets every Thursday and Sunday with the topics and work continuing from one call into the next.

We will start with an intro to the Problem and Solution, an overview of the 12 steps, and will then go right into working Step 1!

If you want to participate, check the GYE page about it and email Dov directly at wequithiding@gmail.com

Whether you’re an athlete, entrepreneur, teacher, parent, manager, or - fill in the blank here -, what percentage of your game do you think is mental?

FrumHangOut.com (FHO)

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.