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Time to rethink your phone?

Made by a friend of GYE and distributed in honor of his son's Bris Milah (Mazal Tov!!!)

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The GYE phone partner program had a huge impact on my life. I kept falling but I wasn't sure what to do about it and just kept trying to pick myself up by doing the same thing as always: getting back into learning and mussar.

Thanks to the accountability I had with my phone partner, I realized that I needed to step things up to the next level, and really reach out for help, from other live people. Thanks to my phone partner, I didn't stay in the cycle of watching pornography and doing teshuva for it, again and again, like I have done for years without any real change. Thankfully, my phone partner and I made it to GYE's phone conferences, and then to SA in our respective neighborhoods early in our lives.

I feel tremendous gratitude to Hashem for helping me find these tools, which He created to help people like me find the refuah I need. So if you want to really make a change for the better in your life, sign up for a phone partner.

The acceptance and honesty you'll learn will change your life, one day at a time.

Someone writes on the forum:

The reason I would like to avoid the 'addict' label is because if I am an addict, it involves 10 times more work and a lifelong commitment. I do realize that this requires tremendous work and a lifelong commitment, but I am still in the early stages of self denial etc.... hey its day 6!

Dov responds:

I hear you loud and clear - and remember the same feelings. But let me tell you that you are making a bit of a funny mistake, chaver. Not facing it and doing the lifelong work is only a guarantee of lifelong work of a different kind: i.e. hiding, lying, and managing two lives while struggling for all the normal stuff (family, job, yiddishkeit, money, friends) that we all expect life owes us...

Once you find out that you are hooked, there are only two choices: it's either a program of recovery or a program of garbage for us. We are on a path of lifelong hard work, either way!

No wonder the drinkers drink so much. They want to drown themselves rather than face the fact that there ain't no easy way out.

Really, once we go to meetings, or whatever we become a part of, and begin recovery, we all find out that life isn't that bad... in fact, it's nice... wait, it's interesting and sometimes exciting... hold on there - it's awesome!

Well... everything takes time.

Just don't rush. You'll miss half the fun! :-)

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.