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Someone who we helped convince to join the 12-Step groups, sent us an e-mail recently as follows: I've had good groups of days, but the big picture is still horrible. I truly hope and am optimistic that one day I will climb out and help others too, but as of today it seem...

There was a discussion on the forum recently about using Mussar and "Sifrei Yirah" to break free of this addiction. Although this may work for people who are not deeply addicted, it rarely works in more serious cases. "Dov", who has 18 years of sobriety through SA, wrote ...

Click here for info on how to join Duvid Chaim's Free 12-Step phone Conference. Duvid Chaim helped us understand Step 1 of the 12 steps with the Big Book: "We admitted we were powerless over lusting and that our lives had become unmanageable". I love the saying we've been...

A "Step" is a way to get from place A to place B. To get successfully from place A to place B you need two things, the theoretical knowledge of what it takes to get from one point to another, and the practical recognition of how to apply and use that kno...

I want to share today a few wonderful things that have come about for me through this program of 12 steps. I feel like I have not shared in a while and so I will do some "service" and share my "experience, strength and hope." My life has completely changed since I started...

Opening Of The Call � The power of the fellowship of program was discussed; 2 participants had gotten tremendous value from a private call they had yesterday. � Until now, the focus was Steps 1, 2, 3 the A-B-D s" of the Program - A dmit - B elieve - D ecide. We now mo...

Someone wrote on the forum: "I feel drained right now. I feel like I've been fighting the whole entire day. I just hope and pray I come out victorious. But it aint over till it's over. Please daven for me. I wanna get over this thing so badly. I feel that if I can get pas...

Last night I met with Rav Shlachter, (a sex-addiction therapist and author of the book "The First Day of the Rest of My Life"). He thought that the insights I had about my childhood trauma were on the mark, but he doesn't like to dwell on the past. That's history! What's ...

Addiction My SA sponsor has been sober for 26 years. He says that if he could be cured of the addiction he probably would decline the offer. That's how much of an opportunity for growth it has been to him. He says that most of the "old timers" in SA and AA say the same ...

Our acting-out our own lust ends up becoming the very source of our refuah, itself. Of course, it starts out being our very best, most precious best friend - even though we also hate it - and we protect it vigilantly with our lies, hiding, faking being decent frum guys. I...

I believe that one of the main reasons that I was always hurting so much inside and felt so down on myself, was that in the things that really mattered, I honestly and innocently expected unrealistic things for myself. It was torture. I felt it was a great injustice that ...

Just change the words "Gambling" and "GA" in this article to "Lust" and "SA". I write to you in shame and humiliation. You don't know me but I know you. For now, it will have to remain this way. I hope you understand. I am writing because I am in a state of desperation....

For years on end I thought I was a bad Jew that needed to become a good Jew (which is true), and that if I become a good Jew then this will stop... As it turns out, no matter how much I improved my Jewishness, my lusting really never really moved in the same direction... ...

I have never told anyone that he needs the 12 steps. Instead, I have always gone out of my way to defend recovery methods other than the 12 steps. I need to do that as I'll try to explain later. I guess some folks hear me echoing " use the 12 steps! " because they kno...

He stood in front of the crowd, men, and many wives, and while looking out, he said: "A lot of you won't be here in 20 years"..... ...There was a break for dinner, and when he came back afterwards, he said that "during the break, many of you came over to me and complaine...

The Crazy Jets Fan A guy who was a crazy Jets fan missed an important game but his friend taped it for him. By the time he got the tape, he had already heard on the news that his Jets won that game. That night he set up beer, chips, salsa, closed door, all for watching th...

The point of writing our 1st step is to finally be able to answer this: "So, do I actually have the ability to remain sober? Have I run out of resources yet, or not?"That's the only question when it boils down. If in my heart of hearts I still believe that I really posse...

The "why" might still be a mystery to me, but although I have walked away from juicy situations a few times, the basic and inescapable fact for me is that I have a pattern and it spirals downward. Nothing I have done has arrested it. Looking at my case in a clear way, rem...