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It is not unusual for sex addicts to ask “How did I get this way? I had such an ordinary childhood.” Nobody survives childhood unwounded. ; And many kinds of stressful or frightening experiences can become sexualized along the way, leading to problems later on. ; And yet whether or not there is l...

When I argued that pornography is inherently oppressive at a Cambridge Union debate recently, I honestly didn’t expect my team to win over the audience. I hoped to. But I also knew that those who grow up in today’s pornified world understandably find it hard to see the harms. I see the harms. I a...

; If you are a family member of a sex addict or of a recovering sex addict, or if you are dating a sex addict, you may have concerns about whether that person poses a danger to children. If you are separated or divorced from a sex addict you may have concerns about child custody and visitation ...

The danger of pornography use isn’t about right and wrong. It’s about the effects that pornography has on the user and the effects it has on the loved ones of the user. Pornography use has serious, negative side effects. Some of pornography's toxic side effects include: 1. Creates emotional bon...

Copyright Disclaimer ; If anyone still had doubts about the addictive dangers of pornography, Anthony Weiner should have put paid to them with his repeated, self-sabotaging sexting. ;And if anyone still doubted the devastation that porn addiction wreaks on those closest to the addict, behold th...

My Name is TC and I Have an Eating Disorder I remember texting my friend from the hospital ;“do you think you can come pick me up?” ; My husband, Jon, knew where I was, he was the one who took me to the ER earlier that day, but I didn’t want him to have to come get me, ;I was too ashamed. ; On t...

One of the tools used in sex offender treatment (SOT) is called "victim sensitization," i.e. teaching sex offenders (not addicts, mind you, but actual predators, who not only get triggered but actually violate vulnerable others, including children) about the human side of their victims. Humanizi...

I have heard this story of treatment failure from many couples who come in to see me about sex addiction. One partner was discovered to have sexually addictive behavior(s) such as porn addiction, voyeurism, hook-ups, paying for sex etc. After an initial upheaval the couple found help for the add...

Porn can't take away the viewer's real life problems, but it can become one of them.