Our Treatment Philosophy
SATTI has been treating sex addicts for almost 20 years. This is what we have learned about sexual addiction and about how to successfully treat it:
• Sexual addiction is a disease. It is not a badness, a moral failing, a lack of will-power, a perversion, hedonism, “brokenness,” or a condition of being “over-sexed,” nor is it a matter of self-indulgence.
• Sexual addiction is often misdiagnosed or negatively labeled, which increases the difficulty sex addicts have in acknowledging their problem and seeking out appropriate treatment.
• Sexual addiction is an addiction to a process–-to the highs and lows of sexual behavior–-rather than to a substance. Like all addictions, it is a treatable problem.
• Sexual addiction is a comprehensive problem, affecting the addict’s mind, body, psyche, and spirit. It also negatively impacts the sex addict’s family and friends, his or her employer, and the community at large.
• Sexual addiction requires comprehensive and holistic treatment to address the two major tasks of recovery: Addiction remediation and the healing of childhood trauma.
• Addiction remediation means helping the addict to stop acting-out sexually and to establish sexual sobriety. Although there are many ways to define sexual sobriety, we find that describing it as “the ability to stay emotionally present” is most representative of the recovery goals we encourage.
• Childhood trauma and neglect are almost without exception the precursors to the development of a sexual addiction. For a lasting and transformative recovery, the longer-term work of treatment must address such issues as post-traumatic stress, childhood abuse and neglect, lack of childhood nurturance, long-term underlying depression, grief, and anger, family-based shame, fear of intimacy, issues of power and control, and distorted boundaries.
• Both individual and group therapy are effective modalities for the treatment of sexual addiction. Groups are particularly helpful in terms of shame-reduction; for participants, knowing that he or she is not the only one who suffers from this addiction provides enormous relief. Experiential and expressive therapies are especially appropriate for the trauma healing that is so central to sexual addiction recovery.
• Sexual addiction recovery can result in significant positive changes for the sex addict. Sobriety gives the sex addict opportunities for intimacy, growth, change, and creativity that could not have been imagined when he or she was in the grip of active addiction.
• Participation in a 12-Step program for sexual recovery is also highly recommendedl if the goals of recovery are to be fully realized.
• The spouse and family of the sex addict are equally in need of specialized treatment, particularly codependency recovery, which gives the couple and the family the greatest chance to remain intact. Although remaining in relationship with the sex addict may not initially seem like a desirable option, participation in a recovery process by all concerned often brings about a different point of view and new possibilities.