Honesty with Self
 
 
  Breaking Free Chizuk #1735  
 
 
In Today's Issue
   
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Editor’s Note: Recording of Dov's Thursday Call:
Daily Dose of Dov: The "Cake" is Self Honesty, Period.
Chizuk: Giving, that's the way of living
Announcements: Big Book Review
 
 
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Editor’s Note
 
Recording of Dov's Thursday Call:

"How to deal, in a general fashion, with Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur"

 

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Daily Dose of Dov
 
The "Cake" is Self Honesty, Period.
 
By Dov

Someone wrote on the forum:

"The spiritual approach is not for me. I just want to get back control of my life"


Dov replies:

I must tell you that that the spiritual approach isn't for me, either.

That's precisely why I turn off some folks by posting my take on their struggle for the sake of halachic goodness and spirituality as "romanticizing" - and hence perpetuating - their losing battle. (Of course, I only tell them that after they clearly rant and rave about how they are always losing, and whine about it themselves!)

It seems to me that all some folks want to hear is that if they only tried harder to be good, went to the mikva one more time daily, or said just one more brocha with adequate or better kavonoh, they'd finally deserve to get the "key" to this thing, and be free. Anything else - like considering that their problem is not a religious one - sounds like apikorsus to them. And indeed it is apikorsus to their own "torah", which mandates that even the insane be successful. I feel that such a perspective, held with tenacity while the house is in flames all around them, is nothing short of apikorsus and believe it comes from Pride rather than from true dedication to Hashem. They have the wrong G-d, it seems.

I do not doubt their intent, but for me, had G-d given me the key on basis of being "good enough", that freedom surely would have been quickly abused and twisted by me as yet further license to pervert myself. "More power" would have only convinced me that I can "handle it", and therefore can get away with using lust even more.

Do you understand what I mean so far?

To me, if there is anything spiritual in the problem, it is ultimately my Pride - a lie, that allowed me to keep serving my "g-d": the power of Lust to pleasure myself. And if there is anything spiritual about the answer, it is Humility - i.e. the truth. Anything else in my personal spiritual growth was my own choice - icing on the cake, as far as recovery is concerned. The "cake" is self-honesty, period.

And it had to almost kill me to help me finally give up my self-reliance, start going to meetings in unlikely places and with unlikely persons, learn about how to stop serving my own Self, and eventually grow into a man happy to serve his true G-d, Hashem.

What approach works for you?

Chizuk
 
Giving, that's the way of living
 
By Lomdei Chesed
 
By GYE Member

If one doesn’t want to give,

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CONGRATULATIONS to the Brave Chevra as we conclude and celebrate the 18th Cycle of the BIG BOOK STUDY - "CRUISE TO FREEDOM!"

It doesn't matter if you were on board the entire cycle, if you hopped on a few times or not.

Join us ALL WEEK LONG as we will be doing a

COMPLETE BIG BOOK REVIEW!!

WON'T WANT TO MISS THE NOON CONFERENCE CALLS THIS WEEK - SEPTEMBER 11 THRU THE 14.

AND WHAT'S IN IT FOR YOU?!

We are dedicating the Calls to a Chazara of the entire Big Book.

Are you having ups and downs in your Sobriety?

Want to really lock in the Program? Want to learn the maintenance steps? Want to just get some insight into the Program? Maybe you're considering joining the NEXT CYCLE BEGINNING OCTOBER 23.

Everyone should bring their Big Book to the Call. And I will show you the most important pages and paragraphs for you to mark.

Why?

So anytime, you're feeling vulnerable, tied up in RID or on the verge of acting act, you can turn to the Big Book and read these particular passages for Chizuck and realignment with the Program of Freedom.

This has been an incredible Journey not only for the GYE18 Newcomers but also all the Veterans. Come be a part of our "Landing" back on the Shore of Freedom.

The Conference Call In Number is (641) 715-3836

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Looking FORWARD

Duvid Chaim

PS - Stay tuned for more exciting announcements as we "look forward" to the GYE19 Flotilla - more ships, more veterans, more focused and more light than ever before!!

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Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.

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