New Cycle of Dov's Desperados 12-Step call

The Dov's Desperados in-depth 12 step call will be starting a new cycle Sunday Jan 15th. For more info, email Dov at wequithiding@gmail.com - and please have a very nice day.

A few minutes ago I checked out a link in an email-type thingy from a good friend. There was an ad on the side of the page that popped up. It was not healthy for me and I turned the page up to avoid the torture and the danger.

OK... now comes the fun part:

A minute later it occurred to me to do something to let him know it was not a great link to send to me. I wanted - really wanted - to check the ad out again, cuz maybe the one I saw was not the normal pop up for that page. Maybe it just happened to be that kind of ad this time. Maybe I should just leave him alone... I just had to check it out!

Heh, heh....

Something in my gut said to me: "Is it worth perhaps maybe jeopardizing sobriety for this? Why risk it at all?" My sobriety is like a delicate glass object that cost me my entire life savings. I carry it around with me and it's a bit crazy, but there's no place else to keep it, cuz it's my sanity! Stupid to carry around, but - here it is! Can't afford to get too distracted from it or it may just roll out of my hands and crash to the floor. Not enough crazy glue in Belleview to put it back together again....

So I just let my friend know in a cryptic way and went on. Not my business to make a big deal about it and I'm not here to save the world from themselves, either.

Sometimes when we break a habit or addiction we find ourselves missing it like a dear friend.

Whenever we make the effort to free ourselves of an addiction or a habit we no longer need, we are often surprised to find ourselves missing the old pattern as we would a familiar friend. This sounds counterintuitive, because we think we should instinctively gravitate toward that which is good for us. And yet, it makes a lot of sense when you consider that we humans are creatures of habit. This is why we gravitate to people and places-and patterns of behavior--that make us feel comfortable. Therefore, many of the habits we form are not conscious and are based instead on learned behavior from role models who were not always making the healthiest decisions.

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.