Rav Nachman says, the name of the Yetzer Hara in our generation is "Dimyon" - "imagination". This is very deep. That's truly all the Yetzer Hara is, a big bubble of "imaginary" pleasure that just pops in your face!

Think about it. Sexuality is really 97% desire and only 3% pleasure. Let's analyze it:

- First, you want it. Then you want it more. Then you start to give in and need it more and more. Then you want it so much, you NEED it. Then you must have it now! Then you're about to get it! Then, it's finally coming, you want it, want it, want it...

- But if you ever paid attention though, as the pleasure actually comes - the arousals have already left your head. There are no more lusts or fantasies, only the petty pleasure. The bubble of desire is already gone, even as the pleasure comes. The Yetzer Hara has done it's job already...

- 10 seconds later, it's all over. Done. Nothing. Only emptiness and quilt are left to linger.

So it's 97% desire and 3% pleasure. So what is there to give in for? Don't give up everything precious for this! Earn your eternal reward in the world to come by just saying "No".

Use simple analysis to conquer the Yetzer Hara! No need to be a mighty warrior in a major battle. Sometimes, just using your "head" takes away the necessity for a mighty battle in your "heart".

Rav Tzadok Ha-Kohen of Lublin makes a fascinating comment about chipazon, suggesting that in our religious lives, we need to identify a moment of enthusiasm and capitalize upon that moment, leveraging the inspiration to move ahead to religious action:

The "Nuclear Reset Button" idea is about how we unfortunately thrive on that very honest state we do feel after masturbating ourselves, and that no matter how holy we feel in that state, it is all part of the same sick cycle. It suggests further, that since we sincerely crave feelings of pure kedusha and hate the feeling of struggling with lust, we end up masturbating ourselves in order to get out of the struggle and into that holy, connected and honest state we often feel after masturbating. It's one of the only ways we know of that practically guarantees plugging into kedusha and teshuvah (with a 'v') again. A dirty cycle in which t'shukah (with a 'k') for avodas Hashem and kedusha leads us to end up masturbating again for years and decades.

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.