Dear friends,

In order to help every person in the Jewish world struggling with the pull to inappropriate materials, GuardYourEyes continuously labors to develop cutting-edge innovative solutions that really work, in order to save individuals and families and to fight for the kedusha of the Jewish people.

We recently launched a new project for teens struggling with inappropriate materials. We gave presentations to offer solutions in over 100 schools in Israel and are preparing to expand the teens project to schools and sems in the U.S and throughout the world (including presentations for parents and educators).

We're also launching new apps - the 'GYE Help App' and the 'GYE Connection App', and due to great demand, we're creating new websites in English and Hebrew specially to offer help to spouses that discovered their husbands' are falling-in.

To maintain and expand our efforts we are in dire and urgent need of funding.

With your help, we can change the world!

Please visit our crowdfunding page and PASS THE LINK on to all your contacts on e-mail, Whatsapp, Twitter (and FB if you have, eh-hem).

Here's the link to pass on to your friends: thechesedfund.com/campaign/79 or thechesedfund.com/cause/help-guard-your-eyes-to-help-thousands-of-others

Youtube link to pass on: www.youtube.com/embed/Grkha330Peg?rel=0

Every Jew helped through you is an eternal zechus!

I'm sitting on the bus, dealing with some unforeseen challenge to shmirat einayim, and I decided to click in to GYE - that focused me in a totally different direction.

After several high quality articles, the daily chizuk, the shmirat einayim stories, great piece in Hebrew about the difference between the addicted and the non-addicted (shared it with my sponsor), an important post about not leaving the day-at-a-time mindset ------ I just feel less preoccupied "with should I look to the left or not?"

Thanks!

Please forgive my frankness, but there is no one I know who has himself at the center of his universe more than me in that trance, staring at schmutz or masturbating. And I believe that anyone who has done that r"l, knows exactly what I mean. Do you? The entire desperate lusting experience is all about "me", isn't it? What feels more "real" or more "powerful" than that? No wonder! That's what makes it so consumingly consuming! Nebach.

"All about me" - like acting out on lust - means no apparent connection with my Shoresh at all, no apparent connection with other people, and no apparent connection with Hashem. I'm "on my own". Well, good luck to us on our own. That's the curse of the nachash (S'fas Emess: He has food everywhere so he's "on his own"!) - while Adam got a "curse" of a choosing between more suffering on his own (lots of weeds) or more dependence on Hashem. Choosing the nachash's way - to go it alone (with my lust "friends"!) - leads to hell on earth, eventually.

Nu. What can we do? It sure is hard to convince anyone that they can really find whatever they are looking for in Hashem, so most of us need to lose stuff, first. It's not a punishment, challilah - it's just the Truth: there's nothing - really - there! That "powerful", "vital" experience I have with me and my porn... it's useless. A mighty scary realization, if you ask me! I depended for so long on isolating with my schmutz when the going got really tough! When we finally see that it's useless with our own eyes, it changes the game. The shmuessen may not help. It seems that we addicts need "Toh Chazi" (come and see), not "Toh Shma" (come and hear).

What I am trying to lead to is this: If you are having a tough time getting to Hashem, take a tough and honest look at what you are really still hanging onto instead of Him. There is no shame here. We know that many of us hang onto money, food, other people, whatever... and they serve them instead of Hashem. Most people can get away with that and remain essentially good, frummeh yidden.
But not us. We can't afford to play that game. At least we can't tolerate it as well as normals can.

And this is "working" step 2 ("We came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity").

As a result of working step 2 - out of the need to remain sober at all costs - I have begun to find a relationship with Hashem that goes with me everywhere. Even under my blankets on a cold morning when I feel like crapola and don't want to do anything! Even when I slip into self-absorption and self-pity. Even when life hurts like crazy... I can still be with Him, talk to Him and He can help me be useful to Him and to people! Because He is at least nearer to the center of "my universe," now.

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.