"Eye.nonymous" writes:

When I first joined this forum I was thinking, "I don't have such a big problem. I just have a lot of trouble controlling my eyes on the street.  But po** and mast** I just slip up on once in while, and it's really not my fault because I'm trying so hard to overcome it."

I've discovered, first of all, that the po** and mast** was actually more frequent than I realized, and that there were some major underlying issues fueling these two behaviors. I feel like I'm in a much healthier place now. I have uncovered frustration, worries, tension, depressing thoughts, and I'm doing fairly well at warding them off. I'm trying to focus on positive thinking and on LIVING more and more.

But, regarding that first problem which, at first, was the only one I really admitted was a problem--controlling my eyes on the street, I feel like I haven't made any progress. My eyes seem just as hefkernow as they were before.

What am I missing?

Watch your Thoughts; they become Words.

Watch your Words; they become Actions.

Watch your Actions; they become Habits.

Watch your Habits they become Character;

Watch your Character; it becomes your Destiny.

This heartzige niggun is dedicated to Uri and all bochrim
With love : Bardichev

SOMEWHERE ON HIGH
FURTHER THAN THE EYE
THE SOULS OF TZADDIKIM UNITE
AND BASK IN HASHEM’S DELIGHT

THEY ARE STUNNED TO HEAR
FROM THEIR KINDERLACH, SO DEAR
A WAR WAS WAGED, A BATTLE WAS WON.
OY! MOSHIACH CAN FINALLY COME

TZADDIKIM, DANCE A REKKIDAH
V’CHASSIDIM YOGILU B’RINAH
THE LAST GENERATION
HAS FINALLY BROUGHT THE GEULAH

THERE IS ONE WOMAN WHO CRIED AND SMILED
YES, YES, IT WAS MY CHILD
HE DID THE TRICK
HE LAID THE FINAL BRICK

MY SON WHAT HAVE YOU DONE?
YOU DID IT FOR EVERYONE.
MY SON, WHO WOULD HAVE BELEIVED?
LOOK AT WHAT YOU ACHEIVED!

TZADDIKIM, DANCE A REKKIDAH
V’CHASSIDIM YOGILU B’RINAH
THE LAST GENERATION
HAS FINALLY BROUGHT THE GEULAH

THE BOY LOOKS AWAY
YES, HE HAS SOMETHING TO SAY
YE,S IT WAS A SMALL STONE
YES, IT WAS MY OWN

MOMMY, YOU WILL NEVER BELEIVE
FROM WHERE THAT STONE I DID RECEIVE
IT WAS NOT A REGULAR PART
MOMMY, THAT STONE WAS… MY HEART

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.