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  Breaking Free Chizuk #1431  
 
 
In Today's Issue
   
Announcements: Duvid Chaim's Workshop
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Chizuk: Use Things!
Sayings: H.O.P.E.
Daily Dose of Dov: The Difference between Normal People & Addicts
 
 
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Announcements
 
Duvid Chaim's Workshop
 

SPECIAL FIVE PART WORKSHOP INVITATION

Starting this Sunday February 21

12 Noon to 1:00 EST

  • Why can’t I stay sober? Why am I stuck? How do I get unstuck?
  • Get your head out of the sand with tools you can use right now!
  • The Freedom Tool - "THE BFATB ICEBERG"
  • Feelings - Who needs them? What do we do with them?
  • Cause & Effect - Connecting the DOTS.

The 5 part weekly workshop starting this Sunday Feb 21st with Personal Coaching and Chabura Bonding

Limited to FOUR MEN ONLY

Specially priced at $350

for this 5 Session coaching package

plus you will receive an additional 20 minute

private session with Duvid Chaim each week between calls!

Special Bonus:

Session SIX with our

guest speaker Miriam

“Building Real Connections"

For more information, email or call me at 214.446.1819

Image of the Day
 
Chizuk
 
Use Things!
 
By GYE

Similar sentiment was expressed by a GYE member:

Things are to be Used and people are to be Loved. But the problem in today's world is that, People are Used & Things are Loved.

In this year, let's be careful to keep this thought in mind:

"Things are to be Used,
but People are to be Loved".

Sayings
 
HOPE stands for: Hold On, Pain Ends
 
Daily Dose of Dov
 
The Difference between Normal People & Addicts
 
By Dov

The reason a person whose life is being messed up by using porn 'should' stop - is to be a human being, rather than to be 'good' or 'frum'. This is simply because as long as such a person keeps his goal 'to be frum', he is blissfully oblivious the fact that he is not even SANE. He is living a double life, and is being made a total fool of, by his lust...played. And he is worried about not being 'frum'? The level of denial here is the problem. And he is (we are) pretending that Hashem is in the same denial as he is - that "Hashem is just pining for this guy to 'do Teshuvah' and 'finally be a tzaddik'. After all, don't Chaza"l call a guy who is mugdar min ha'arayos a kadosh?" Religiously romantic, yes, but very far from the Emess. Chaza"l do not call a guy who is living a double life 'a kadosh' - even if by coincidence he does not use porn and masturbate. If he is a person who is living a double life, swallowed up by his obsession with to - or not to - use porn/lust/sex-with-self (masturbation), he is just a goofball. It's like eating matzo with all the deep kavonos...in Tamuz. "But I feel so holy eating matzoh with these lofty kavanos for my avodas Hashem!" Puleez. He has the 'Hashem part, but the problem is that it is not even 'avodah' yet. You gotta be a mentch first, Derech Eretz Kodmah laTorah, and there is no other way. But this is not true for normal people, at all.

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Do you think you may have a porn addiction?
 

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.

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