Excuses List

A Member of Duvid Chaim's Phone conference shares his "Excuses List" his addiction uses to FOOL HIM into believing he is still in control of his "lusting":

• If I am the only one awake at 1 AM, it's not hurting anyone

• If I fantasize, it stops me from real-life acting out

• Everybody flirts anyway

• It hurts to hold back/I need to release tension

• It's just too hard to stop/I've been doing it too long

• It's not a betrayal of love

• I just want to check my email

• It won't happen today

• I won't happen again today

• It won't happen before our phone meeting

• I feel so great after the meeting, it won't happen afterward

• I can use the internet by myself, I am not weak willed

• No one will know

• Acting out does not affect my tefilah

• Acting out does not impinge on my love of life, positive attitude, simchas ha'Chaim

• I am not holy enough to fight back yet, one day I will be there

• It just feels so good

• I need it

• I will change tomorrow, just not now

• I am in control

• I have a better plan

• I have a better plan

• I have a better plan

• I am the director, I can make anything happen when I want

• I am normal

• I am not an addict, I'm not like him, I'm not like them. If I'm an addict, people will look down on me

• I will go through the 12 steps and THEN be in control

• It's not the worst addiction out there

• I am strong enough to stop

• I, I, I.

What's your "excuse list"? We can identify the way our addiction fools us and learn to pre-empt it!