Excuses List
A Member of Duvid Chaim's Phone conference shares his "Excuses List" his addiction uses to FOOL HIM into believing he is still in control of his "lusting":
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If I am the only one awake at 1 AM, it's not hurting anyone
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If I fantasize, it stops me from real-life acting out
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Everybody flirts anyway
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It hurts to hold back/I need to release tension
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It's just too hard to stop/I've been doing it too long
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It's not a betrayal of love
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I just want to check my email
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It won't happen today
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I won't happen again today
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It won't happen before our phone meeting
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I feel so great after the meeting, it won't happen afterward
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I can use the internet by myself, I am not weak willed
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No one will know
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Acting out does not affect my tefilah
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Acting out does not impinge on my love of life, positive attitude, simchas ha'Chaim
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I am not holy enough to fight back yet, one day I will be there
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It just feels so good
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I need it
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I will change tomorrow, just not now
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I am in control
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I have a better plan
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I have a better plan
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I have a better plan
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I am the director, I can make anything happen when I want
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I am normal
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I am not an addict, I'm not like him, I'm not like them. If I'm an addict, people will look down on me
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I will go through the 12 steps and THEN be in control
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It's not the worst addiction out there
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I am strong enough to stop
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I, I, I.
What's your "excuse list"? We can identify the way our addiction fools us and learn to pre-empt it!