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I just wanna say that working the 12 steps on Duvid Chaim's phone group was totally life changing. I seriously look at people differently now. One thing that Duvid Chaim said that really made a difference to me is that "everyone is doing their best".All parents want to be...

Before I joined GYE last year, I was being constantly attacked by lust. I was a heavy "user". It was an everyday pastime, and sometimes many times a day. I never considered it abnormal because I had great excuses, such as "My friends are doing it" and "it's healthy for yo...

Today's call was so eye-opening for me! If I may paraphrase the amazing revelation that Duvid Chaim shared: Always being "on guard" against lust by consciously avoiding it, either via willpower, or by putting in place "S.M.O.G" (S ome M echanisms O f G uard) like filters,...

For my first few weeks here at GYE, I didn't really leave my house at all (since my work allows for that). The only woman I came in contact with was my mother. Going to the mailbox was risky, as I might get a glance of the female joggers that would be jogging by my house....

Only recently, for a period of about a month, did I start falling by being drawn to reading wrong things. My computer at home now has a report that goes weekly to wife and a friend, my comp at work is turned outwards publicly but could still be dangerous (even though I kn...

Dear Duvid Chaim, Here's what I understand so far about this great voyage that we're on. Please let me know if I'm getting it right. 1. We are not working on the Lust Addiction (we are powerless over the addiction), rather we are working on: Understanding where the Pain ...

Whatever method or system we've been using on our own up till now, has obviously not worked or we wouldn't be here, dealing with lust and masturbation in our daily lives. SO WE HAVE TO ACCEPT THAT OUR OLD SYSTEM JUST DOESN'T WORK, PERIOD. We need to try something NEW. We ...

Today, our Rebbe Reb Duvid Chaim, was discussing (on the phone conference) the Middos of Rachamim (Attributes of Mercy). The sixth attribute of the thirteen is "Erech Apayim", which refers to God's endless patience with us. It might be possible that Erech Apayim correspon...

Click here for a beautiful page about "Gratitude" (that Duvid Chaim shared with his group recently). An "Attitude of Gratitude" is one of the fundamental strategies for maintaining sobriety for the long-term, and it is one of the secrets of the success of the 12-Step prog...

SEEMINGLY GETTING NOWHERE I feel silly that although I am a veteran on Duvid Chaim's calls, when I'm on the street, my eyes dart everywhere, and this doesn't seem to have changed at all. Every once in a while I have some sort of realization, and it gets better for a day ...

Here are a few STEPS TO STAY CLEAN AND SOBER: 1) Always first: have a good long conversation with HaKadosh Baruchu. He just wants to hear from you again. Maybe your "signal strength" got a little low. How many "bars" were you holding before the slip? 2) CHECK OUT YOUR...

I have been listening to the Phone conferences with Duvid Chaim and I'm happy to report that the unimaginable is B"H occurring in my life. I always wondered when I would get control of my thoughts at the times when I'm faced with a lust challenge. First of all, I've come ...

Ever since joined GYE I've had this argument with others on the forum: "Do the number of days clean really matter?" I don't know how to fully express this, but please believe me when I say I REALLY know what I am saying. It's so hard for me to fully develop this into a co...

Avraham (a Talmid of Duvid Chaim's groups) writes: The 12 step program, specifically addressing my list of fears in step 5, really helped me overcome procrastination. I was holding myself back from doing things I knew I should be doing. After the Chevra helped me let go o...

Levi, a Talmid of Duvid Chaim's phone conference writes: I had a test this morning. I was hungry, cranky and in a bit of irritability. I had a plan to go into my office, make two important phone calls that would be critical (or so I thought) regarding about $1000 of dispu...

In the Doctor's opinion of the Big Book, we learned that that our disease is an "allergy" - meaning that our disease is actually out of our control, that we aren't bad or immoral or sinful people, but that we are under the effects of a disease - not only physical but also...

The 12 step program, specifically step 5 (addressing my list of fears), really helped me overcome procrastination. I was holding myself back from doing so many things that I knew I should be doing. But after the chevra on Duvid Chaim's call helped me let go of my fears, I...

Dov from Israel writes: I had an interesting experience... I kept noticing that someone was also logged in when I was on my other Gmail account - but I did not recognize the person. Perhaps it was someone I once sent an email too (I am involved in several different activi...