To someone who claimed that he was going to try and over-power the Yetzer Hara, 'DovInIsrael' writes: It probably won't work. The Y"H is just waiting for you to pick a fight with him. Instead, try this: When he comes knocking at your door, invite him in and show him to t...

A well-known saying asserts that in foxholes there are no atheists. When we're in a position of pain, danger or need, something within us awakens and reignites a deep connection to our Source. And somehow, with this connection, we find strength we never knew we had and th...

Dear Duvid Chaim, Here's what I understand so far about this great voyage that we're on. Please let me know if I'm getting it right. 1. We are not working on the Lust Addiction (we are powerless over the addiction), rather we are working on: Understanding where the Pain ...

Some people want to know if one cycle through the 12-Steps is enough to be fully healed. This question actually reveals an underlying character defect that all addicts have. We're all looking for that "magic bullet" that will give us the quick fix. "I want to be healed no...

I touched on this before, but I need to say it again to reinforce it to myself. In the past I have made it 30 days or more. But I can't say that I felt as good about it as I feel now at just 20 days clean. Why? Because it felt like a struggle that was holding me down, and...

Eye.Nonymous wrote on the forum recently: I was thinking that this AA attitude that an addict is "allergic" to their addiction and is forever vulnerable, seems to be very much in line with Chazal, as they say: "The Yetzer Hara is misgaber on a person every day, and withou...

One of the SA guys here on GYE, schlepped me out of the sewer and sent me to the first person I've ever known that I couldn't con. I had the merit to talk on the phone with Harvey, one of the founding fathers of SA (he's an old guy today). Talking to Harvey was seeing mys...

B"H, today is day number 76. But as Dov says, I need to always ask myself, "how can I make the days count, and not just count the days?" Well, the way that I hope to make today count is to go easier on myself and not punish myself with thoughts about all the things that I...

Imagine the alcoholic going to the opening of the world's most exclusive restaurant. The tab is at least a thousand dollars and he waits hours on line for the privilege of paying to eat there. Finally, he gets his table and sits down. The waiter brings him the menu and he...

I walked by a guy the other day and he had a look of disgust on his face. First I was mad - thinking, "Who does he think he is?" Then I got outraged - thinking, "Doesn't he know who I am?" I joke with my kids saying, "Do you have any idea how important I am in my head? Af...