A must hear shiur by Rabbi Shafier from theshmuz.com for the days of repentance.

Recorded especially for GuardYourEyes!

GA - Guilt Anonymous

How to balance destructive guilt with real Teshuvah.

Why do I feel I need to act out?

What brought me to this point?

Have I been here before?

What did I do to deal with it?

How did I feel after dealing with it correctly?

What have I done to ease the discomfort so far?

What else can I do that won't be acting out?

How will I feel when I am acting out?

How will I feel after acting out?

How will I feel tomorrow morning?

Can I avoid this stressor or deal with it better in the future?

Do I need to act out?​

I am clean for over 180 days, thank G-d. I use the forum, the 90 Day chart, I spend time reading and listening on the topic. I also spend much more time with my kids and family. Keeping myself busy, trying to daven with minyen, going to my shiur are all helping me, but the strongest tool that works for me is "one moment at a time!" Just one desire at a time. When I get a lust attack, I'm learning to breath like a woman having contractions.

With Hashem's help, I reached 90 days over the summer - which was quite an achievement for me. Unfortunately I fell a few weeks later, just before Yomim Noraim and I've been up and down since then, peaking at 30 clean days.

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.