Count your blessings
 
 
  Breaking Free Chizuk #1883  
 
 
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Editor’s Note: Guest Speaker Reminder
Text: I Pause
Sayings: Count your blessings.
Announcements: Emunah from the Inside Out
Daily Dose of Dov: Why I Can’t Use Porn
 
 
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Editor’s Note
 
Guest Speaker Reminder

Don't forget!!

TODAY - Thursday

June 28th at Noon EST

Special Guest Speaker - Rabbi David Aaron

Author, Speaker, Dean, Visionary and Spiritual Educator

On the Guard Your Eyes Conference Call

Celebrating the Real You: 

Secrets to Unconditional Self Worth

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How can I celebrate myself - when I don't even know who I am?

And how can you expect me to love myself - when I'm living a lie...stuck in such a Chronic and Disruptive Behavior?

Who am I fooling? Where do I turn for hope - for freedom - to find the REAL ME?

Join us to learn the answers to these questions and more

RABBI DAVID AARON has invested over 3 decades delving into life’s biggest question marks and sharing Torah’s transformational wisdom to adults and young adults. He has emerged as the ‘spirituality expert’  simply because he has dared to ask and answer the most difficult questions that all people have and/or struggle with about God’s existence and their own.

Disarmed by Rabbi Aaron's exhilarating undeniable clarity, we dare to look at our deepest assumptions, doubts and fears and challenge our paradigms of belief. Amazingly, we discover that our changing view of God and ourselves gives us access to reserves of personal power we never experienced before.

He is the Founder/Dean of Isralight and Rosh Yeshiva of Orayta, plus author of eight ‘paradigm-shifting’ books. Works include: The Secret Life of God, Living A Joyous Life, Seeing God, Love is My Religion, Soul Powered Prayers, Inviting God In, The God Powered Life and Endless Light.

THE CALL IN NUMBER IS:US - (641) 715-3836IS - (076) 599-0060The Participants use access number 637207#

Everyone is invited, men and women and bring your friends and family!  There will also be a Q&A period for you to ask your questions.

And please send us your questions in advance.

Looking forward

Duvid Chaim & Miriam

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By GYE Member

I am not an addict. I am the wife of an addict. I have also lived with other addictions before my marriage. My mind is trained to obsess about the addict and their safety, their whereabouts, how they are, or how they ought to be.

Something I've learned to do recently is to pause. Check in with G-d. Am I ok right now? It's a great question.

When I feel threatened by active addiction, I have to check in with G-d. I have to be honest with myself when I walk and talk with G-d. What is it that is bothering me? Am I afraid I won't be loved the way I want to be loved? Do I have resentment that he isn't working his program? Do I have resentment towards the lady on the street that is dressed inappropriately?

Next, I look at my wants. Am I making demands on my sexaholic spouse to behave differently? Do I give that inappropriately dressed woman a mean look, or even think about her in a negative way? Am I projecting my feelings onto my kids because I am not getting what I want? All that "wanting," if I can truly be honest, is selfish. Why is it selfish? It's selfish because I am making demands on others in order to get my needs met.

I have to pause every day. I have to bring Hashem into my life during these trying times. I have to be honest with myself. And most of all, look at what I have, rather than what I want. My wants might come from a natural place of wanting a healthy relationship. But it doesn't end there. Demands, anger, resentment, depression, and control are some of the things that happen to me due to the nature of being connected to an addict. So, if I use the tools of step work along with a healthy fellowship, and bring it to G-d, then I can get my sanity back.

I'll tell you what I do have. I have a husband who is a sexaholic but tries. He is kind, loving, and a good father whose focus is yiras shamayim. He does so much for the family. I never noticed all these things before because I was so focused on what I wanted and that nullified all the rest. Because my mindset now is different, I can see so much of what I have. I'm not focused on changing my husband’s behavior, and I'm not stuck in the mentality of obsessing about all the untznius girls on the streets. I do go there, don't get me wrong. BUT I don't stay there, I don't stay in the fear or the resentment. I process it with G-d. Then I'm able to have love for all these people. It's quite an amazing journey.

Through the tools of the program, my total outlook on life has changed. My mindset is different. When I change, the rest of the world around me changes, because I'm looking at the world with a different lens. That lens is the lens G-d gives me when I choose to walk with him.

Take a minute today and pause with G-d. See what direction that will lead you.

Much hatzlacha!

Sayings
 
Count your blessings.
 
Announcements
 

Second part of the series coming up!

Listen to the recording of the first installment.

 
Emunah from the Inside Out
 

What Drives Compulsion? Addictions & Emuna From the Inside OutTwo-part fascinating workshop/shiur Mon. June 25 and July 2

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Daily Dose of Dov
 
Why I Can’t Use Porn
 
By Dov

My G-d, if I had porn available to look at and actually used it, I'd be toast. My life (i.e. my state of mind) would be immediate gehinom. I'd be gnawing myself to death with my little, desperate and complicated thoughts about 'ruchiyus or struggles with other people; everyone else in my life would be a total pain in my behind; and on top of that, I'd need to keep acting out worse and worse no matter how damaging it is, till I get into so much pain that I need to stop again...for a while...and over again.

So I cannot afford to look at porn, at all. It takes my mind away. And my mind means my life, just as it does for you, me and everybody.

That is what always happens to me when I intentionally use lust.

Do you think you may have a porn addiction?
 

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.

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