A girl asked us:

This is a bit embarrassing but I have this desire to look at my Israeli cousin's non-tznius friends online (Facebook & Instagram). Is this coming from a place where I wish I could look as good as them, or is it the yetzer hara trying to get me to look at porn with a few more clicks?

GYE Replied:

I don't know where it's coming from, but when you are on social media sites you are in the Yetzer Hara's zone and he can get you to do all sorts of crazy things. These sites are a very dangerous place for anyone to be on, and all the more so for someone who struggles with these things already:

Please listen to these 2 short POWERFUL talks by Rabbi Zecharia Wallerstein:

SWINEBOOK

STAY OFF SOCIAL MEDIA!

Some so called "progressive" Rabbis today have made the claim that a person with same-sex tendencies cannot be called a transgressor, even if he acts on these tendencies, since that this person is in the halakhic category of "Ones Rachmana patreh" -"someone who is coerced to commit a transgression and therefore unaccountable," as, after all, he was born that way.

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.