Listen to a short message of Chizuk regarding Pesach Sheini (3.5 min).

Dear Yid,

You have no idea how relieved I was with your letter. I was sure you were done with me. I'm happy you understood the situation and made such a good choice.

Yes, I know it hadn't been easy. You have made many mistakes in the past. You've tried to forget about me, to be independent... but, of course, your biggest mistake was when you chose Life over me.

It was so painful. I had such a hard time. I tried my best to get back with you, but you wouldn't hear a word. I would try to approach you on the streets, in your office, even in your dreams... but you totally ignored me. Yes, sometimes, you did look hesitant, but you were so faithful to Life... I couldn't take it!

The worst part of it all is that you seemed so happy with her! I could see she made you grow in a way I never managed or even aimed to. She taught you humility, but also pride; self-control, but also faith. She was always there for you. She believed in you. She knew your greatness and hoped that you'd stay with her. She was petrified to lose you.

Life was always proud of you; she loved you for who you were. She didn't mind that you had been in a relationship with me for years. Because Life took it one day at a time... And you knew that.

But then - you saw me, and I made myself beautiful. I sang your favorite song, I wore the clothes you used to like most. I understood that I should only come to you when Life was harsh to you.

So - I did it. I came. I showed you my understanding and I promised I would also take it one day at a time. I swore I forgave you for spending such a long time with Life and forgetting about me. Yes, you had been with her... but you could always come back to me.

And I'm delighted you've listened.

Now, we're on for a new journey. Life is over. Let's forget about Life. You don't need Life. You just need me.

12-steps, SA... that was all rubbish. Yes, it helped you, it changed you completely: you looked so much better; you were so fulfilled, so strong, so fantastic. But I convinced you that you would never manage anyway.

You know, deep down, I do think you can manage... but do you really think I want you to? No! Of course not. I need you way too much...

Self-love? Self-care? Higher-Power? That's all me.

Yes. I am your Higher Power. I'm stronger than you, ain't I? I'll always be there for you. I'll always make you feel good... Although, mind you, I love making you feel guilty after we spend a good time together. Because then, you turn to Life again, and discover that you're not worth Life, and that's Life is not worth living... so guess what happens next...? You come back to me!! I love our reunions.

So yes, it will be hard for us sometimes - there will be ups and downs...

But I know we are the best partnership in the world.

For - do you deserve better anyway...?

All my deadly love,

Lust

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Someone wrote to Dov recently:

Hi Dov,

I recently listened to a bunch of recorded calls from your morning Q and A series while I did some painting at home the last few days.

I appreciate the time and attention you put into getting help to folks.

I also appreciate the many times you emphasize on those calls that not everyone is an addict. During most of the other GYE phone conference calls, the assumption that is often stated is that if we are on the calls, we are therefore addicts. That has made me, and probably others, nuts - trying to see if I am or I am not - and a whole lot of mental energy spent trying to cram my problems and challenges into the 'addict box'.

Footnote by the editor: For the above-stated reason, GYE is in the process of dividing the website into two separate websites; one for non-addicts and one for addicts. We hope it will be ready by the end of 2017, be"h.

If you are in SA and are willing to be a contact for other frum people in your city who may need SA (to speak with them and introduce them to the groups), please send your contact info to gye.help@gmail.com (first name, cell number, anonymous email address).

Thank you!

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.