Dealing with "stinking thinking" and moods #3

If we truly realized and internalized that our emotions are 100% coming from our thinking, that there is 100% correlation between our thinking and our feelings, there would be many positive implications and ramifications.

One other major ramification is that we would realize it's not necessary to change the world for us to feel better.

We often try so hard to force our environment and the people around us to change in a desperate hope to feel better.

It usually doesn't work. Not only it doesn't work, it makes things worst.

Looking for the reasons why we feel negatively in our lives and our environment gives the negative feelings deeper roots, more negative thoughts, more negative feelings - it's a negative spiral.

Realizing the reason we feel negatively is because our thinking has gone stinking, makes it much more likely that the thinking and the feelings will fly with the wind quicker.

Dear GYE,

Thank you for your congratulations on my reaching 1 year clean, it touched my heart deeply. Thank you, GYE, it definitely would not have been possible without you.

Lately, I have been meditating, a practice that I have learnt recently. If I can work at its root, it will do away with these maladies of the mind. Maybe, this is a posuk in Tehilim that describes it:

ואני קרבת אלקים לי טוב, שתי בא-דני יה-וה מחסי , לספר כל מלאכותיך.(73,28)

The best thing that is really good - and it is the only good - and it is the greatest of the goods, is to be close to Hashem. But my eyes, my feelings, and my emotions don't see it that way, so there is no choice and no other way, but to trust Him. Put your trust and sense of security on Him. Then, I could see and tell all of his great deeds and miracles that He does, especially with me.

GYE, thank you and thank you again. BE"H, I intend to be sober till Mashiach comes, there is no other choice. May Hashem help me to choose Him to enlighten me when my path is dark. Then, may He help me see that there was never a dark place, everything was lighted under His sun, His infinite light and love.

Be well, friends, adios!

Arye

The work Ner Le'ragli tells the story of a certain student in Yeshivat Kenesset Yisrael of Slobodka who spread false, uncomplimentary information about a fellow student, whom we will call Yosef. The lashon ha'ra he spoke caused Yosef to lose a prospective shidduch opportunity. Yosef remained unmarried until the time when the Russian army began conscripting single men into its army, and so Yosef was drafted. He endured several years of suffering under the harsh conditions of the Russian military.

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.