Once, when Rabbi Pinchas of Korets entered his Beis Medresh, study hall, he noticed that his students stopped conversing and then started again. He asked them what it was they were talking about. They told the Rebbe that they were saying how they were afraid that the Yetzer Hara, the evil inclination, would pursue them. The Rebbe responded, "Don't worry. You aren't on such a high level. You're still pursuing him!"

When I first heard this story, it really hit home base for me. Every time I have told it over, ...

1. It´s my second time reaching 90. I fell pretty hard about a month after reaching my first 90 days. I learned that I can't let my guard down. I must watch for the ¨I´ll never fall again¨ thoughts.

2. Although it´s a huge milestone, it´s really only a number. Nothing magical happens once you hit the number 90. I´m definitely not ¨cured¨. Still have to take things one day at a time.

3. Speaking to my rebbi was the best thing that's happened after finding GYE. I must build upon it and make it the strong tool that I need.

4. I can´t be a perfectionist about it. I can't let the only thing keeping me going be the fear of losing the number. That's when I lose sight of the real goal.

5. I must keep up with the tools on GYE on a regular basis. They have been my lifeline from the start.

6. I must be fully cognizant of the fact that I am not alone in this battle. Almost everyone deals with or has dealt with it in some form.

Tools Used:

1. Forums. Best way to connect with others going through same or similar situations. Good for talking about anything on my mind.

2. TaPHSiC Method. A way to just stop. It gave myself no other choice then stopping. I used it late into the game but it got me back on track.

3. 90 day chart. Good for keeping a written record of where I was holding. It gave me some motivation when I was feeling weak.

4. Partner program. Basically acted as a personal helpline. I also started this late, but it helps tremendously.

I hope this helps with what you are doing.

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.