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Editor’s Note: The Ubiquitous Grip of Porn on the Young Generation
Testimonials: Bas Melech now feels like the true daughter of The King
Links: "Good Pictures Bad Pictures" The Book
Announcements: Special Guest on Duvid Chaim's Call this Wednesday
Prevention: How to Talk to Your Son about Porn
Testimonials: Tool Set
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Editor’s Note
The Ubiquitous Grip of Porn on the Young Generation



21st technology making it harder to keep porn out of your children’s hands


Vic Faust


ST. LOUIS (KTVI) - November is Child Safety and Protection Month, which is the perfect time for parents to talk to their children about using mobile technology safely and the dangers of internet pornography.

The average child starts viewing pornography at the age of 11 and four out of six 16-year-olds admit to using porn regularly. Cell phones and tablets make it easier for more kids to access porn. It’s easy, free, and seemingly endless.

Psychologist Tony Tramelli of West County Psychological Asoociates says technology has fueled the fire. Porn sites are getting more hits on a daily basis than Amazon, Netflix, and Twitter combined. And it isn’t just boys viewing porn. Girls may not be viewing it as much as the boys, and not as much for sexual desires, but more out of curiosity.

"My concern with girls viewing porn is that what they see makes them think that it is what is expected out of them in a relationship," Tramelli said.

Studies show that kids who are exposed to a significant amount of pornography without treatment can have problems that last a lifetime.

It seems as if kids are going to see things no matter what parents do, however, that doesn’t mean parents and guardians should let their guard down.

"Parents need to check their kids phones regularly, make sure they don’t have dangerous apps that can allow them secrecy to do things and also put restrictions on their phones and mobile devices,” said Jolan Dawson, sales specialist with Verizon Brentwood.

Verizon offers a feature called ‘Family Base,’ which does all these things. Each service provider has content filters available as well. All you have to do is ask them.



Bas Melech now feels like the true daughter of The King
By Bas Melech

Back in 2014, a young girl wrote to us:

Dear GYE,

I'm 13 years old. I know I'm young, and when I speak about this everyone - my psychologist and others - they ask me how it happened that a 13-year-old girl has this problem: I've been addicted for 3 years already!

I'm begging you, I need a place to go forward, I can't go on anymore like this. Myself, I don't understand why I had to be led to these sites at such an age. For the last year since I became bas mitzva I have been desperately fighting this, though on constant occasions I act out to porn and at such a young age had relations.

Please, you're my last hope. Can you give me some guidance?

Thank you in advance

Bas Melech

In November 2015, she wrote again:

Dear Guard Your Eyes,

I'm another story which you can turn the page on! Of course, I have tears running down my cheek as I say this: I am past 300 days clean already. I know that without the incredible team at GYE, I would have never gotten up. There would just have been a lonely teen with only boys and pornography for comfort.

I feel like a bird. I feel that for once I have been set free to fly and just grow forever. GYE has been that mother eagle to me. When everything just got so tough, you spread your wings guiding me out of the tidal wave of pornography and boys.

I just turned 15. You have given me the opportunity to still have a life of true happiness ahead of me. Please keep up the work you do, it's just amazing!

May Hashem repay you millions of times over. Even though because of my age and financial situation, I can't help you with money, if there's anything I can do to help you, it would be amazing and a massive pleasure.

Thank you again for pulling me out the mud. With so much hakaras hatov,

Bas Melech, who now truly feels like the daughter of The King.


Dear Bas Melech,

congratulations on 300 days clean! Keep up the good work.

By sharing your story you are helping us already - us and thousands of girls and boys who will read this and get inspired to change their lives for the better. So thank you!

May G-d Almighty bless you and keep you!


Want to share your story? Email us.


Good Pictures Bad Pictures is a book every family needs to read. It has been priceless in helping us start a dialogue with our young children about the harmful effects of pornography.”

Marcia Stillwell, mom of 5

"Good Pictures Bad Pictures" The Book

A Proven Action Plan for Kids to Use When Exposed to Pornogrpahy


The 5-point CAN DO Plan™ teaches kids how to avoid the brain-warping images of pornography and minimize the troubling memories of accidental exposure that can lead them into a dark and destructive addiction.

To stay safe in the digital age, kids must install an internal filter in their own brain. Good Pictures Bad Pictures shows them how.

Special Guest on Duvid Chaim's Call this Wednesday

If you can't access the full article on your browser, email me and I will send you a copy.

How to Talk to Your Son about Porn
By allprodad.com

Pornography is a powerful threat to our sons. It skews their view of sex, love, women, and relationships. Obviously, when we were younger access to graphic sexual images were not as easy to come by as they are today. A magazine belonging to friend’s dad or a movie on late-night cable TV was our most common exposure. Even in those seemingly more innocent days, there were things I saw at a friend’s house at an early age that were confusing. Quite frankly, they were damaging. It felt wrong but, fearing I’d get in trouble, I never told my dad what I had seen. I wish I had. With a palpable feeling of guilt, I was left on my own to try and figure it out. My dad didn’t have porn in our house; so naturally, he assumed I hadn’t been exposed to it. Things are so different now. Having the Internet on so many devices inside and outside the house means the barbarians are perpetually at the gate.

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Tool Set
By GYE Corp.

I've printed out the GYE handbook and Attitude handbook, and I've been working my way through them. I have to say that they are utterly brilliant. My favorite thing about them is that they provide me with so many different TOOLS to fighting the addiction. I really used to feel ILL-EQUIPPED in dealing with the dreaded urge, and all I'd be able to tell myself was things like 'come on, just fight it' or 'try harder', without really having any idea of HOW to effectively and creatively work around the problem. Kol Hakavod for providing this service!

Do you think you may have a porn addiction?

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.

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