How to turn off lust
 
 
  Breaking Free Chizuk #1303  
 
 
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Announcements: CREATIVITY NEEDED FOR GYE ADS
Chizuk: The neshama is part of G-d Himself
Daily Dose of Dov: The Triggers are in Us
Torah: LAST RESORT TURN-OFF
Links: Step 8 - Audio Shiur by Rabbi Y. Pinson
 
 
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As you all know, GYE advertises heavily on frum websites in order to reach out to our fellow brothers who are struggling. We are building now a new advertising campaign with "Google Adwords" to try and reach even more Yidden. When someone enters a search on Google for a word or phrase that we choose for our campaign, our ad will come up on the results page.

We would like the help of our members to figure out which key words and searches we should select for our campaign. Please send us the key words and phrases that you think Yidden who need help would be searching for. For example - porn addiction, how do I stop, etc.

Please send your suggestions to eyes.guard@gmail.com

Chizuk
 
The neshama is part of G-d Himself
 
By Twerski, Rabbi Dr. Avraham

A man told me that he was at the airport, and he had his tallis and tefillin in his carry on. "I had to go to the men's room, so I left my carry on outside the men's room, because I didn't want to take my kedusha items in there. Then it occurred to me, that my neshama is kedusha, and if I don't take my tallis and tefillin into the bathroom, how can I take my holy neshama into an indecent place? Sure, I take my neshama into the bathroom because that's how G-d created me, so He wants me to do it. But he doesn't want me to take the holy neshama into the cesspool of the internet. Because the neshama is part of G-d Himself, it's the worst insult to G-d to take it into immoral places."

Daily Dose of Dov
 
The Triggers are in Us
 
By Dov

Someone was complaining how difficult it is to remain clean with lust triggers being everywhere! Dov writes:

They may seem like they are everywhere, but we all go through times like that. Thanks for reminding me. I passed the same pretty lady twice yesterday - first at work and later on my way home from work, and I had to make a phone call to a recovering addict (while I was davening for her), because the second time I passed her, apparently something inside told me she must be destined for me (and dinner will stay warm an extra half hour anyway while I get another good look at her!). Oy vei.

Besides, is there lust in your toes? can you think through or write out a short, 5 minute gratitude list for your toes. (Maybe Uri can help you write a song about them). There is plenty to sing about regarding our toes, clothes, food, etc., and much gratitude that can help you get out of yourself.

Cuz, my friend, the lust triggers aren't really out there, they are in us. We carry them and keep them.

Dov's posts are often short and sound sometimes funny/strange. But I have found that the more I re-read them, the more I discover in them. Let's examine this post more carefully.

Here are 6 profound things that I learned from Dov's post today:

1. Even guys like Dov, sober for 11 years in SA, still struggle with triggers.

2. The diseased mind of the addict seems to feel subconsciously that anyone attractive in our vicinity is somehow "destined for us" (even if we don't usually act out on it - B"H!).

3. The best way to deal with these goofy feelings are to get them out into the open with safe people, by making a phone call to a fellow addict ("Lust glows in the dark").

4. Daven for the object of your lust (after turning away, of-course). This turns the selfish inward-desires "outwards".

5. Another great way to get "out of ourselves" is to make gratitude lists in our head for all the wonderful things Hashem has given us in our lives, even our toes! Who ever thought about the wonder of our toes; how they keep us in perfect balance when we walk... And our toes don't feel lust, do they? Look how much good we have in our bodies that are completely unrelated to lust!

6. There are unlimited amount of things to lust for all around us. Our only hope is to let go of the lust, because the triggers are really inside us. As Dov wrote, we are the ones carrying them and keeping them. If we learn to let go of the lust, we will no longer be surrounded by "impossible" triggers.

Torah
 
 
LAST RESORT TURN-OFF
 
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Rabbi Yisrael Pinson is the Director of the Daniel B. Sobel Friendship House in West Bloomfield, MI. Since joining the Friendship House he has helped create a local Jewish Recovery Community where recovering addicts are helped through support, guidance, friendship and community.

More from Yisrael Pinson 

Step 8 - Audio Shiur by Rabbi Y. Pinson
Do you think you may have a porn addiction?
 

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email help@pornanonymous.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit pornanonymous.org (Hebrew: p-a.org.il / Yiddish: pa-yid.org).

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at dov@guardyoureyes.org to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit www.sa.org.

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