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  Breaking Free Chizuk #1293  
In Today's Issue
Image of the Day: Does porn love you?
Announcements: GYE Looking for Facebook 'Geek'
Member's Chizuk: 9th of Av-inspired sobriety
Chizuk: What Ties You Up?
Sayings: The Twelve Steps and G-d
Practical Tips: TaPHSiC Shiur
Links: Step 7
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Does porn love you?
Does porn love you?
GYE Looking for Facebook 'Geek'

Disclaimer: GYE highly advises AGAINST having access to Facebook. However, as Rav Motta Frank - who has a Facebook page - once told us (when he gave us his Haskama on GYE), "When the last Jew leaves Facebook, I will too". In other words, as long as so many of our brothers are on Facebook and are stumbling, GYE needs to have a presence there to inspire and save those who want to be helped.

GYE currently has a Facebook page here but we would like to increase our Facebook presence and hopefully reach thousands of Yidden (through "Likes" and "Shares").

We are looking for someone who ANYWAY uses Facebook and is very familiar with how it works; preferably someone with good graphics and social skills.

If you think you might be able to help with this, please contact us at

Member's Chizuk
9th of Av-inspired sobriety
By Anonymous

I slipped during last summer on a trip to Las Vegas. At every level of this disease, when you fall you fall at a higher level and its easier to cope and get back up. (Sheva Yipol Tzaddik V'kom - a Tzaddik falls seven times and gets up again).

I had stopped going to meetings, did not have a sponsor and my therapist had left town. I contacted a friend who put me in touch with the Experiential Healing Center ( They suggested I go to a week treatment at a facility in Nashville called Onsite. (

The only problem was, it was Tisha B'Av. I told someone I was going and they asked me if I was going to wear my Yarmulke. They said it would be a Chillul Hashem if I did. I decided to go, brought my own Kosher food and got my own private room. I arrived on Friday and just before Shabbos, I thought about what this person said. I said to myself," you're here to be honest, to finally be yourself and discover who you really are." I am an Orthodox Jew and I wear it proudly.

I went to dinner (Shabbos dinner for me). Sitting there with my Yarmulke, there were 10 people in my group, working on Sexual Healing Issues. Two of the participants came over to me and wished me a Good Shabbos. Well they really said, Shabbat Shalom, but that's a different story. They were not religious and were eating regular food, but when they saw my Kippah and the Challah and Grape Juice, they knew I was Orthodox.

Tisha B'Av was on Tuesday night and I invited these two guys to join me in reading Eichah. A Christian fellow was listening and asked if he could join also. What was I going to do, tell him no? The day before we had begun group therapy and got to know each other's struggles. The fact that I was there for Tisha B'Av was enough to bring a constant stream of tears to my eyes for several days. For the first time in my life I cried real tears on Tisha B'Av. I'm surprised I have any left.

We read Eichah together and had a discussion about the Bais Hamikdash, about Teshuvah and our dis-ease.

During the therapy sessions, each person does work where they play a role in reenacting a trauma in their life. The other participants play roles also, like their mother, father, inner child or HIGHER POWER (G-D). Well, out of 7 Christians and 3 Jews, guess who played G-d the whole week? Me. These two fellows became my good friends and they told me what a Kiddush Hashem I had made for them in being their hope and inspiration.

So instead of it turning out to be a Chillul Hashem, it turned out to the opposite on Tisha B'Av, no less.

Don't ever give up hope. This Onsite weekend shocked me into now 9 months of total sobriety. Work the program, read and practice the 12 steps, get a sponsor, call a friend, get honest with yourself and others and you'll heal.

What Ties You Up?
By Anonymous

I'm an assistant Rebbi in a yeshiva, and I have a female shadow in my classroom (she watches a specific child), who does not fully understand that her mode of dress is not very appropriate. It makes life very difficult but with HIS help (and constant chizuk from GYE - thank you!) I've survived the year. . .

A child just walked past me in the hall as I was trying to untangle my tzitzis from the button of my jacket. He reached out and helped. I gave him a smile and said, "For some reason, I'm all tied up." He smiled back and replied, "You're always tied up..."

His words got me thinking. I'm always tied to His Will as my tzitzis remind me. So when teva calls me to gaze at the shadow, I must tell the pervert: "I'm tied up at the moment; He has something else I need to do!"

I send this to you to try to help others . . . and thank you for all the wonderful things you guys at GYE do for His nation!

The Twelve Steps work whether or not you believe in G-d. They will not work, though, if you believe you are G-d.
Practical Tips
TaPHSiC Shiur

Rabbi Yisrael Pinson is the Director of the Daniel B. Sobel Friendship House in West Bloomfield, MI. Since joining the Friendship House he has helped create a local Jewish Recovery Community where recovering addicts are helped through support, guidance, friendship and community.

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Step 7
Do you think you may have a porn addiction?

Do you have a problem with obsessive and compulsive porn use? Have you seriously tried the tools on GYE and feel that you are not getting better? Maybe it’s time to consider joining a 12-Step program.

Porn Anonymous (PA)
If you’re compulsively acting-out with pornography and masturbation we suggest you explore joining Porn Anonymous (PA). If you need help deciding whether to join PA, call Michael at 347-699-2368, or email to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit (Hebrew: / Yiddish:

Sexaholics Anonymous (SA)
If your compulsive acting-out has progressed beyond the screen (with other people, paid sexual services, etc.) we suggest you explore joining Sexaholics Anonymous (SA). To figure out if SA is for you, call Dov at 917-414-8205, or email Dov at to schedule a time to talk. For more information visit

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