Q & A

Dear Mother of Boys, Great question! Here's the thing. Sins are not like parking tickets--where the violation is clear and the fine is established. In the spiritual realm, Hashem judges each person and each sin according to their specific circumstances. What could be considered a grave sin for on...

Dear ;Coulda Been, I take strong issue with these sentences of yours: ;"The tremendous shame is that I lost out on very important developmental ;years of my life and could have ;grown into much more than I am. My potential was far greater than what I look like now." This is a common misconception...

Dear Rabbi… A woman in Israel approached us for help regarding a problem she is having with getting clean for her husband. She gave birth over 7 months ago and keeps staining, unable to go to the mikva. It is becoming a nightmare for both her and her husband and she begged me to look into anyone ...

Dear Distraught, I agree it should be addressed earlier. We have a booklet called "Protecting our Youth: Experts Speak" that can help parents know how to speak to their children about these things. ; But let me just try to set you straight about something. Your best years weren't destroyed by th...

Dear In Need, Don't worry, the body automatically re-absorbs the semen build-up, so there's no need to release it. I understand it's hard, but this is what separates the men from the boys! Hashem challenges us to be strong ;and pays us back a thousand-fold in both this world and the next. ; The ...

; GYE Responds: ; First of all, there's no such thing as a disgusting being. Hashem doesn't make junk. He has a plan for you, and it's better than you can imagine! ; ; The feelings you express are very common for addicts, and I feel your pain and confusion. ;A few points come to mind: ; 1) P...

I discussed this with Rav Dovid Morgenstern (one of the most prominent poskim today, a talmid of Rav Eliyashiv zatza"l) by phone, and below is a partial transcript of his reply: It's complicated. Mitzad echad, it's only one witness, so he doesn't have any neemanus al pi din. And he also doesn't k...

A Woman asked: After being married for 2 years, I found gay hookup apps on my husband's phone. This was tremendously shocking and heartbreaking. We are dealing with it well but I feel totally tricked (into marriage) and betrayed. Also, my brother had known this whole time, as well as another guy-...

Please listen to ;this great shiur ;by Rabbi Shafier that he recently recorded for our members called "Guilt & Teshuvah". Please realize that although the Torah takes a tough stance when we don't listen to Hashem, however Teshuvah was created even before the world was created! Hashem knew th...