Thursday, 10 May 2012

Nothing to worry about

by GYE (See all authors)

Someone wrote us an e-mail, and we tried to reply the best we could. Maybe others can take Chizuk from this "give and take" as well...

Excerpts from his letter...

I masturbate because I have no bitachon. I am what they call (although I disagree with the term) a "BT," not born into a religious home, and am in college.... I masturbate because I feel lonely, depressed, and anxious about the future, especially that of whether or not I'll marry. I am ready to give up this whole lewd way of life if Hashem gave me something to grab onto...

Excerpts from our reply...

... About your "confessed" lack of Bitachon... Someone once came to a Hassidic master and complained that he didn't have enough Emunah and Bitachon. The Rebbe asked him, "so what? why does it bother you"? "Rebbe!" the man cried, "but I'm a Jew!". "If so", the Rebbe replied, "you have nothing to worry about".

In other words, the Yetzer Hara wants you to believe you don't have Bitachon. But if it bothers you that you don't have enough Bitachon then it means you really have Bitachon deep down! :-) So don't let him fool you. His goal is to make a person depressed. In such a state a person can reach the lowest levels of impurity and is vulnerable to sin.

Some people say they would be able to stop if only they were dating, married or had this or that. Don't wait. Work on yourself now before it's too late. Masturbation is an addictive behavior. By the time you feel you are ready to stop, you may be addicted and find it very difficult to stop.

Also, in the merit of you working on it now, G-d will send you what you need... I would suggest you talk to friends or matchmakers about finding a date. See here for some great advice on Jewish dating. Also, join a Jewish dating site like JWed (Frumster) or MitMazel.com.

May G-d be with you!