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Re: In Need of Chizuk 02 Feb 2023 00:12 #391487

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A week clean bh.
I got to a week many many times before, but for the first time, I actually thought about the fact that even if at some point in the future I fall, I still accomplished staying clean for this past week; so i did something small to celebrate like HHM (and many others) always said to do.
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Last Edit: 02 Feb 2023 00:54 by Yosefhamevakesh.
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Kol hakavod, doing tshuva

heres the count:
  • ybird +34 days + not trying to find holes in filter
  • bt2001 + 8 days
  • battle-of-the-gen + 4 days
  • J (Not yet on GYE) + 9 days
  • A (Not yet on GYE) + 7 days
  • D (Not yet on GYE) +1 day + signing up to GYE + filtering his smartphone + filtering laptop + having wife put a new password on her phone that he does not know
  • iLoveHashem247 +32 days
  • DoingTshuva +15 days
  • J (username tbd) +7 days of switching from iPhone to fig phone, no WhatsApp, and no netflix
  • A. +30 days deleting Instagram

for the complete Refuah of
Miriam bat ettel

147 days committed (40% of a year!)
218 days left to go! 

keep it coming guys 

BTW, for anyone on the fence on making some big moves:
:pinch: Warning: Spoiler!
Challenge accepted!

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It takes tons of courage to fight the good fight, but we don't have to do it all alone. 

My Story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/385922-My-Story-Being-Honest-For-Once
Last Edit: 02 Feb 2023 01:57 by iLoveHashem247.
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The next 2 weeks should be for your wife zchus, Will be extra careful regarding P&M
 NO, It's not all or nothing, just every bit counts!

I failed yesterday, and I might fail tomorrow. But just for today I'm going to give it a try.


אָמַר רַבִּי יוֹחָנָן: אֵבֶר קָטָן יֵשׁ לוֹ לָאָדָם, מַרְעִיבוֹ — שָׂבֵעַ, מַשְׂבִּיעוֹ — רָעֵב

Gye program + Handbook  -  Taphsik method  -  90 day chart  -  Ebooks  -  Shiurim  -  Rabbi Dr. Avraham Twerski  -  Recent topics on the Forum
Wowowowow! Chazak ubaruch!

+34 from ybird

bt2001 + 8 days

 battle-of-the-gen + 4 days

J.M. (Not yet on GYE) + 9 days

 anonymous friend who is on day 28 more for the first time in many years is committing to + 7 days!

anonymous friend +1 day + signing up to GYE + filtering his smartphone + filtering laptop + having wife put a new password on her phone that he does not know 

i will take on +32 days (till the date of my ברית מילה)

for the complete Refuah of my MIL

 who else? I want to raise one year of kedusha in the next 24 hours

95 days committed(!)
270 days left to go! 

who is next?
Challenge accepted!

If you figured out my identity, don't be shy, come say hi! 
It takes tons of courage to fight the good fight, but we don't have to do it all alone. 

My Story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/385922-My-Story-Being-Honest-For-Once
Last Edit: 01 Feb 2023 23:01 by iLoveHashem247.
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Ok, i will take on myself the next 34 days untill purim, 
not to act on porn or masturbation, Cha"v
i want to add not to go around fishing for new loopholes on my filtered device

should she have a really speedy recovery and our clean days should results in her clean medical report
 One day at a time brother, don't run too fast
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‏כל הכבוד

bt2001 - 8 days

 battle-of-the-gen - 4 days

J.M. (Not yet on GYE) - 9 days

for the complete Refuah of my MIL

 who else? I want to raise one year of kedusha in the next 24 hours

21 days committed(!)
344 left to go! 

please share and call your friends and message me to take any amount of time. 

great opportunity to set a smart goal: 

Specific - no pornography, masturbation, or going to undesirable places

Measurable - for example, it could be measures days

Attainable - committing to the extent that is within your current abilities and experience.

Reasonable - committing to not watching pornography you’re masturbating in order to increase one’s personal holiness and strengthen the marital bond 

Time-bound - 5 days, 3 weeks, a month etc. 

let’s do this!!!!
Challenge accepted!

If you figured out my identity, don't be shy, come say hi! 
It takes tons of courage to fight the good fight, but we don't have to do it all alone. 

My Story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/385922-My-Story-Being-Honest-For-Once
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Wow! 
Thank you! It should be a big merit for everybody.

By the way, the meeting in the doctors office is tomorrow so maybe we could all rally together and take it upon our self something even something small tomorrow as well let’s try to spread the word and make this a big dealBh 
Challenge accepted!

If you figured out my identity, don't be shy, come say hi! 
It takes tons of courage to fight the good fight, but we don't have to do it all alone. 

My Story: guardyoureyes.com/forum/19-Introduce-Yourself/385922-My-Story-Being-Honest-For-Once

Re: Comics 01 Feb 2023 18:31 #391471

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DavidT wrote on 01 Feb 2023 16:57:

This one is left to right ... finally! 
"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
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I use that story in a different way,  i would rather be embarrassed of my boss seeing that I'm on GYE looking for chizzuk, rather than being caught searching for loopholes
 One day at a time brother, don't run too fast
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ILH
i promise to be clean today and be here for my wife and kids in a Zechus for your MIL
if you want i should say some tehillem send me a PM with her name
 One day at a time brother, don't run too fast
:pinch: Warning: Spoiler!
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Re: Comics 01 Feb 2023 16:57 #391467

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"If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?"
feel free to reach out @  ahavayirah@gmail.com
Last Edit: 01 Feb 2023 18:28 by DavidT.
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Re: Why is it so hard? 01 Feb 2023 16:08 #391464

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@Geshamk!
thats good to hear!!!
 One day at a time brother, don't run too fast
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Re: Why is it so hard? 01 Feb 2023 15:39 #391463

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Geshmak! wrote on 01 Feb 2023 14:46:
Let me try to be a little more clear.
basically I have done crazy dangerous silly foolish stuff because of my sex drive. Which means that I’m a addict( I can’t go into details but things that could’ve destroyed my life and the life of my family) but I bh never hooked up with anybody (even though I was close) and at sa a lot or maybe most have been with others and by me being there and hearing how others did it and how they felt before ( I won’t even hear the second half how they felt after) I will get very triggered and probably will cv fall into the worst. But in a way if I’m addict I need to know how to control myself and how to live life as an addict. Like if I’m gonna be in a situation when I have access to bad stuff or worse will I be able to control myself??? So what a גוי would do is go fall 20 times do the worst of the worst and hit the rock bottom and then see for himself that he can’t live with out sa 12 step. But I’m bh a yid and I can’t do that. So I was really stuck and I couldn’t decided what to do so I spoke to people with a lot of experience and I am in touch with them. But yes I wish to join sa and get helped it for now it won’t help me it probably will make me worse r’l… but I’m not giving up on a clean life! Yes addicted or not I’m a Jew and my father in haven which made become a addict gave a Torah with rules and this apply even for addicts. And he will give me the kiach j need to fight my addiction ( cause I CANT do it myself) H’ which split the ים סוף will split my problems and let me free of my מצרים.  Bhy!!
but I have to do mine to be careful and watch that I don’t fall again so I was mekabul on myself for the next 40 days to say אלקי נשמה and in the week days the יהי רצון from before putting on my תפלין in side my סדור and think the words and have in mind what I’m saying. 
Thank you everyone for just being here to listen to me. This platform is not stam just that a person can type hes problems and get it off hes chest is enough ( besides all the chizuk and ideas that come out of this Heligah site!!!) Kol tov!!

My experience in SA has been VERY different then what you describe.Happy to chat if you'd like.

Wishing you tons of Hatzlacha 
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Re: Why is it so hard? 01 Feb 2023 14:46 #391462

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Let me try to be a little more clear.
basically I have done crazy dangerous silly foolish stuff because of my sex drive. Which means that I’m a addict( I can’t go into details but things that could’ve destroyed my life and the life of my family) but I bh never hooked up with anybody (even though I was close) and at sa a lot or maybe most have been with others and by me being there and hearing how others did it and how they felt before ( I won’t even hear the second half how they felt after) I will get very triggered and probably will cv fall into the worst. But in a way if I’m addict I need to know how to control myself and how to live life as an addict. Like if I’m gonna be in a situation when I have access to bad stuff or worse will I be able to control myself??? So what a גוי would do is go fall 20 times do the worst of the worst and hit the rock bottom and then see for himself that he can’t live with out sa 12 step. But I’m bh a yid and I can’t do that. So I was really stuck and I couldn’t decided what to do so I spoke to people with a lot of experience and I am in touch with them. But yes I wish to join sa and get helped it for now it won’t help me it probably will make me worse r’l… but I’m not giving up on a clean life! Yes addicted or not I’m a Jew and my father in haven which made become a addict gave a Torah with rules and this apply even for addicts. And he will give me the kiach j need to fight my addiction ( cause I CANT do it myself) H’ which split the ים סוף will split my problems and let me free of my מצרים.  Bhy!!
but I have to do mine to be careful and watch that I don’t fall again so I was mekabul on myself for the next 40 days to say אלקי נשמה and in the week days the יהי רצון from before putting on my תפלין in side my סדור and think the words and have in mind what I’m saying. 
Thank you everyone for just being here to listen to me. This platform is not stam just that a person can type hes problems and get it off hes chest is enough ( besides all the chizuk and ideas that come out of this Heligah site!!!) Kol tov!!
Guys the only way were really gonna get help is with H’s help so we gotta beg him for help and he sure will help us cause he wants us helped!!
CRY TO HIM!!
https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/2-What-Works-for-Me/387630-Powerful!#387630

Don’t fall back even one step:https://guardyoureyes.com/forum/4-On-the-Way-to-90-Days/386598-Why-is-it-so-hard?limit=15&start
Feel free to pm me!
Last Edit: 01 Feb 2023 14:51 by Geshmak!.
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