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Tzvi5 wrote on 23 Oct 2019 21:06:

Markz wrote on 23 Oct 2019 17:55:

benaliyah613 wrote on 23 Oct 2019 17:35:
the disgusting feeling that you get when you come out of that high just isn't worth it

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Someone who has gone 121 days is obviously a hero. There will always be tough moments - that's life until Moshiach comes. Do you find yourself constantly battling or just sometimes? 
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Re: New here please help 23 Oct 2019 22:04 #344375

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Need a yeshua

It sounds to me as if you are suffering from depression.
The frequent fear of bad things happening is a symptom.

Am I correct?
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Re: Hello everyone 23 Oct 2019 22:03 #344374

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I guess the adult world has brought you some bumps and bruises.

If we can all access that purity our childhood, we can be happier and want to learn and enthusiastic about life.

I guess the trick is to know that the daily struggles are real but a veil, and the nicer inner world lies beyond them.

Re: Hello everyone 23 Oct 2019 21:12 #344373

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simchastorah wrote on 23 Oct 2019 07:30:
Hi I just signed up! I was addicted to pornography as a teen, and still slip up every once in a while, but the real issue is that it's never ever far from my thoughts, if my wife accidentally leaves her computer open (mine has webchaver) i either struggle for my life not to fall, or .... fall. please please give me chizuk i want to be a simple person like i was when i was a child.

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Re: New here please help 23 Oct 2019 21:11 #344372

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Markz wrote on 23 Oct 2019 17:55:

benaliyah613 wrote on 23 Oct 2019 17:35:
the disgusting feeling that you get when you come out of that high just isn't worth it

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Re: New here please help 23 Oct 2019 21:00 #344368

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Thank you. Totally agree that real change needs to be made- just easier said than done. Been exploring for awhile, and have been approving- but still a long way to go.
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Hi, 
I have b''h reached 121 days, something that I am extremely proud of. I have for the most part employed filters and taphsic to keep myself in check. 

My main issue now is that every few days i will have a day of extreme tayva where I will then try to give into that by having serious hirhurim or lusting over attractive women on the internet. I do not think i will actually fall because I remember how painful it was the last time I fell with a streak of similar length. Remembering that pain really keeps me and check. It was the worse decision of my life and hus brought much struggle to my life. 

The Tayva is very hard because I am single and sometimes I feel like there is no immediate outlet besides giving in. I know it is extremely hard, and a high madrayga, but I am looking to control my tayva when it comes about and be able to subdue it and not fantasize. One of my main motivations is that I want to start dating soon (I am 20) and I want to have a super clean relationship with my future wife. 

If anyone has any tips, that would be much appreciated. Sadly, I don't check GYE as much as I should, so if I don't reply right away it isn't because I don't appreciate it a ton, but rather because I am still working on inculcating GYE in my daily routine. 

Thank you so much. Much Appreciated 
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Hey friend,

Sorry we got off on the wrong foot in the chattin' section. Most (but not all) of the people hear (jk) will say that I'm a pretty decent guy, so let's give it another go. Ok?

I spotted three threads of yours where you basically wrote the same thin'; you are on a streak but still have desires. What to do? You wrote that your thought process is that the longer you stay away from actin' out, the better of you'll be. Well, that is true in a sense, but for many of us, we have found that we will not change if we don't change, and that means internal change. 

Now, some succeed in your way, for maybe the desires weren't so great and didn't overly control them, but many here have found that our body (or soul) became so infected that we needed somethin' more, somethin' positive to remove those attackin' cells. Sort of like plasmapheresis. Some choose Torah and mussar. Others work the steps. Some attend meetings. Others try smart recovery. There are those who chose mindfulness. Some focus on the triggers and the causes. Many ways and the fellows here can offer their experiences.

Godspeed to you
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Healthy Eating

Even as we work hard to control our eating habits-we still can celebrate meaningful partial successes in refining our eating habits & correcting ourselves spiritually.

so for example-even when we did fall in to overeating or eating without thinking-we still have the beracha achronah or birchas hamazon to elevate what we ate

& even after that-while the food is still yet to be digested-we can tell Hashem that you will try to do better next time but may the energy I received from the food.

the main thing is not to get discouraged & value bounce backs after fall as well as partial belated successes-as long as they are sincere-Hashem treasure them & they are stepping stones to move forward.

i am not talking from the high ivory tower.  I am by nature an emotional eater & often fall into eating without thinking or overindulging in unhealthy foods

so I speak as one who is yet far from the ideal-who still has a long way to go in working on this 

Nevertheless, I have found that the above advice & meditation has helped me greatly. 

In addition, every night, admit to Hashem the failings during the day in regards to eating, ask Him for guidance, Thank Him for providing you with food & Ask Him for help to have a better day the next day in regards to healthy (physically & spiritually) eating 
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benaliyah613 wrote on 23 Oct 2019 17:35:
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