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Re: zero mile -here we go again 09 Dec 2010 06:09 #88510

  • bardichev
Ok I guess here is where we all let in hang in margaritaland

Farewell to arms

Old man and the sea

KW!KOT!!!

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Re: zero mile -here we go again 09 Dec 2010 06:13 #88511

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bardichev wrote on 09 Dec 2010 06:09:

Farewell to arms


did i twist it that bad?  ;D
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
~Inna beshem ZS

Give, Forgive
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The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
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Re: zero mile -here we go again 09 Dec 2010 22:36 #88640

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Is all this distraction helping you stay clean? Please report.
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Re: zero mile -here we go again 09 Dec 2010 22:41 #88644

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ZemirosShabbos wrote on 09 Dec 2010 06:13:

bardichev wrote on 09 Dec 2010 06:09:

Farewell to arms


did i twist it that bad?  ;D


hahahahahahahah got it zemmms
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Re: zero mile -here we go again 22 Dec 2010 18:50 #90310

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Hello to the whole chevra.I wanted to check in.i'm holdng my own.No slipping. I would still love mussar.It's missing in the world.

“The shortest answer is doing the thing.”
Earnest Hemingway

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Re: zero mile -here we go again 22 Dec 2010 18:58 #90312

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the best mussar is the one you have in your heart

you know your situation. you know what area needs to be corrected. where you can make better and more secure safeguards for yourself.

take the next step. the one you know about but did not implement. the one you were waiting to do when you feel the next 'inspiration'. do it now. as r' hemingvay said.
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
~Inna beshem ZS

Give, Forgive
~Cordnoy

The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
~TZ
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Re: zero mile -here we go again 22 Dec 2010 19:30 #90340

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keywest wrote on 22 Dec 2010 18:50:

I would still love mussar.It's missing in the world.


Well consider this.  The Chovos Halevovos says in his hakdamah to Chovos Halevovoes Shaar Habitachon that:

שאם אינני בוטח באלהיס בוטח בזולתו

If we don't have Bitachon in Hashem we are placing our Bitachon in something else.

Everytime we turn to lust, we are placing our trust in that lust, image or woman and therefore we are removing our Bitachon in Hashem.  So one of the first steps we have to do is to turn to Hashem.

The Chovos Halevovos also writes in Shaar Hateshuva that one of the seven steps of Teshuva is:

חוזק
סבלו להמנע מן הרע אשר הרגיל בו והסכמתו לסור ממנו בלבו ובמצפונו כמו שכתוב
וקרעו לבבכם ואל בגדיכם

In other words part of teshuva is the recognition that its going to be hard to give up what I got myself used to doing.  Thus, if a person things he can do it all alone he doesn't even have the basics of teshuva down.

For me these are powerful and scary stuff,which tell me that alot is at stake and I better get working.

If you want real musar though, listen to the shuirim in the link I gave you above.  It is from some of the realist mussar you will get these days.
Help free Sholom Rubashkin by giving him the zechus of Shemiras Eiynayim.  www.guardyoureyes.org/forum/index.php?topic=2809.0
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Re: zero mile -here we go again 22 Dec 2010 21:10 #90394

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ZemirosShabbos wrote on 22 Dec 2010 18:58:
the best mussar is the one you have in your heart... you know your situation. you know what area needs to be corrected. where you can make better and more secure safeguards for yourself.
You know, I was about to make that standard speech about how no one is qualified to give true mussar these days because it requires a level of love and selflessness and concern for the other that's simply lacking in our dor (no, not the Jim Morrison dor).

And now, someone comes around and says it better than I EVER could have.

Because there IS one person in the world who loves me that much. And so THAT person probably IS entitled to give me mussar. So, maybe I just need to get myself to a really quiet place, buy myself a nice lunch, and then listen to all the loving mussar that my self can handle.
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Re: zero mile -here we go again 22 Dec 2010 21:21 #90400

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Briut wrote on 22 Dec 2010 21:10:

...buy myself a nice lunch...

i'm with you on that
Sometimes life is like tuna with not enough mayonaise
~Inna beshem ZS

Give, Forgive
~Cordnoy

The reason I'm acting as if I'm pregnant, is because I'm expecting. I should be accepting.
~TZ
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Re: zero mile -here we go again 23 Dec 2010 07:00 #90473

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keywest wrote on 22 Dec 2010 18:50:

I would still love mussar.It's missing in the world.

OKAY, HERE'S SOME SHTARK MUSSAR FOR YOU...

POST A LOT MORE OFTEN, DAMMIT!
YOU WON'T GET ANYWHERE IN RECOVERY
IF ALL YOU DO IS JUST PEEK IN THE FORUM
ONCE EVERY FEW WEEKS.

There, how was that?
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Re: zero mile -here we go again 19 Jan 2011 06:21 #93698

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Hello Chevra
I've been making major headway. I had an interesting experience today. My lust wanted me to visit certain video sites that I haven't seen in ages. Thanks to the encouragement here I just said no no no. I sat for two hours in front of my web-chavered computer and read politics.I was numb I couldn't work. I was frozen. So no fall no slip. Did anyone ever experience such a thing?

As Hemingway said
“We are all apprentices in a craft where no one ever becomes a master”

Key West
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Re: zero mile -here we go again 19 Jan 2011 13:17 #93710

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I think your experience is common to other addicts.  When we deprive ourselves of our drug of choice we need to start looking for replacements.  For some this is news, sports, politics, food, even drugs or alcohol.  Thats why only a program of recovery can get us better not a program of just stopping.

Hatzlacha
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Re: zero mile -here we go again 21 Jan 2011 08:27 #94007

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keywest wrote on 19 Jan 2011 06:21:

I sat for two hours in front of my web-chavered computer and read politics.I was numb I couldn't work. I was frozen. So no fall no slip. Did anyone ever experience such a thing?


That's better than p*rn.  But, better yet if you can get up and get involved with real life and real people somehow.  Even just give someone a call.

--Eye.
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Re: zero mile -here we go again 29 Aug 2011 15:22 #116719

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Hey Key West, I thought you may be interested in this story:  www.aish.com/sp/so/My_Encounter_with_Hemingway.html 

Remember Live Life.

Help free Sholom Rubashkin by giving him the zechus of Shemiras Eiynayim.  www.guardyoureyes.org/forum/index.php?topic=2809.0
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