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Re: Square one 21 Apr 2021 22:03 #367245

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Day 6
clean bH

Re: Square one 22 Apr 2021 00:17 #367256

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Wow, I am so impressed!
​(And my deepest apologies for not being more in contact...)
Stay strong, tzadik!
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Re: Square one 23 Apr 2021 14:19 #367341

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Day 8
BH clean today and yesterday
Changing my filter has helped a lot
Last Edit: 23 Apr 2021 14:19 by Looking_to_improve.

Re: Square one 23 Apr 2021 15:08 #367342

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Amazing!
Good to hear.

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: Square one 23 Apr 2021 18:30 #367345

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Awesome! the chizuk that you provide for us is priceless...
Please keep us posted,

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ה׳ עמך גבור החיל! [שופטים ו׳ יב׳]

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Feel free to reach out to me at
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Re: Square one 25 Apr 2021 16:06 #367377

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Here's a message I sent to a mentor earlier today, I though it might be kdai to share here.

It took me a while to fall asleep last night. I spent some time thinking about a certain girl, which wasn't great. I know that it's normal for a young guy to have a desire for a physical relationship, but I don't think I realise that so much more is involved in any relationship than just the physical side of it. BH I'm not involved with her, or messaging her or anything like that, but I would like to try to stop these thoughts and fantasies.I think it's probably a bit of withdrawal, but it's also somewhat of a long term thing that I have only got past a few times
Last Edit: 25 Apr 2021 16:06 by Looking_to_improve.

Re: Square one 25 Apr 2021 21:19 #367400

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BH today was clean

Feeling some desire now to delve into the thoughts I wrote in my last post. I think it's a mix of withdrawal and also something that is habitual to me and that I've done a lot in the past. I've been dealing with it a bit more over the last week but haven't wrote much about it.
I have to appreciate that despite the fact it's still not a great thing to go into, it's still a lower level desire.
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Re: Square one 26 Apr 2021 21:03 #367457

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Day 11
BH today was clean. 
I touched myself today at one point when I wasn't really thinking, and while doing something else. I don't think it's something to get caught up on

Re: Square one 27 Apr 2021 21:26 #367523

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Day 12
BH today was busy and clean

Re: Square one 28 Apr 2021 01:46 #367535

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12 days is very impressive! Keep it coming almost at 2 weeks!!!

Also know the beginning is the hardest once you make it past 2/3 weeks it gets a lot easier in my experience
Think about how good you'll feel if you say no to desire and compare that to how bad you'll feel if you say yes.

Desire is unique in the way that it is never fulfilled -  if you give in the desire comes back even more powerful in just a few days. Telling yourself that its ok because this is really the last time doesn't work because you are just adding new images to your head that will cause future falls.

The Joy of triumph over the yetzer hara is worth the effort it takes to win. It IS worth it! Keep fighting!


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Last Edit: 28 Apr 2021 01:47 by EvedHashem1836.

Re: Square one 28 Apr 2021 18:51 #367575

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Thank you

Day 13
BH clean today
Last Edit: 28 Apr 2021 18:52 by Looking_to_improve.

Re: Square one 29 Apr 2021 21:05 #367682

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2 weeks!
14 days clean bH
Haven't been this clean since Jan 26th, around a month before Purim
Finally on the up again, making progress
Last Edit: 29 Apr 2021 21:07 by Looking_to_improve.

Re: Square one 29 Apr 2021 21:28 #367683

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Looking_to_improve wrote on 29 Apr 2021 21:05:
2 weeks!
14 days clean bH
Haven't been this clean since Jan 26th, around a month before Purim
Finally on the up again, making progress

Mazel Tov!! This deserves a lchaim!
לכבוד התנא האלקי רבי שמעון בר יוחאי!

Re: Square one 01 May 2021 22:14 #367734

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Day 16
BH clean over Friday and Shabbos

Re: Square one 02 May 2021 01:56 #367743

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Yessss keep it coming!
Think about how good you'll feel if you say no to desire and compare that to how bad you'll feel if you say yes.

Desire is unique in the way that it is never fulfilled -  if you give in the desire comes back even more powerful in just a few days. Telling yourself that its ok because this is really the last time doesn't work because you are just adding new images to your head that will cause future falls.

The Joy of triumph over the yetzer hara is worth the effort it takes to win. It IS worth it! Keep fighting!


My thread: 
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