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Re: Overcoming challenges 09 Dec 2022 11:58 #389204

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OivedElokim wrote on 08 Dec 2022 18:59:

Zedj wrote on 06 Dec 2022 03:06:


Could it be i just like porn? 




This made me smile. I think that's also the most plausible theory, often overlooked on this site for not being psychologically sophisticated enough. I think it's the reason I keep falling, and it's very likely that the same is true for you...

Anyways wishing you the best of luck,
OivedElokim

I definitely used to just love porn, and the only downside was that it was assur and could destroy my life. So if only I hold out until marriage, then I could get out all my desires B'heter. And then my porn issue will for sure go away... Because for me when the draw was sex without the whole connection bit, and I was objectifying every lady on and sometimes off that screen, the issue was just my love of porn. And violent porn. And other fetishes. In other words, until I figured out that it's actually poisonous for me, (and that realization gets stronger the longer I'm clean), I didn't realize how much I didn't love porn. And how much connection in all relationships was being sacrificed on the altar of something that wasn't giving me what I thought it was. But that's just me.
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Re: Overcoming challenges 12 Dec 2022 04:52 #389299

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BH 8 days clean.

Kislev is a big month for chabad and specifically tomorrow night yud tes kislev.
The plan is to join a farbrengen and attempt to seriously set goals for myself and set up good resolutions. 

On that note:
Please hold me accountable for the following
1- writeing up a pro vs con list
2- writeing up a contract

I appreciate you guys!

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Re: Overcoming challenges 21 Dec 2022 05:18 #389834

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17 days clean!

BH doing well.

The way I keep upto date with gye posts is by looking through recent posts...its been super intense the last couple days. 

Was eminiscing about last year... I had major urges during chanukah and was able to persevere.


anyway, im doing well, staying busy and bezh will persevere!

Happy Chanukah!

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Re: Overcoming challenges 23 Dec 2022 04:00 #389943

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19 days clean
BH doing well.

800 cumulative days clean! 
I think that is pretty big!
I don't even know what to celebrate with.....how many more doughnuts do I have to eat? Is 8 not enough? 

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Re: Overcoming challenges 23 Dec 2022 05:03 #389946

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You can celebrate on the treadmill afterwards
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Re: Overcoming challenges 23 Dec 2022 05:45 #389948

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Vehkam wrote on 23 Dec 2022 05:03:
You can celebrate on the treadmill afterwards

I think I just might  

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Re: Overcoming challenges 23 Dec 2022 15:00 #389962

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Zedj wrote on 23 Dec 2022 04:00:
19 days clean
BH doing well.

800 cumulative days clean! 
I think that is pretty big!
I don't even know what to celebrate with.....how many more doughnuts do I have to eat? Is 8 not enough? 

Yes indeed! It is VERY big! Keep it up!!
There's a joke that one of reasons for eating doughnuts on Chanukkah is that you eat it one day and it burns for 8 days... So just imagine thr results of eating many doughnuts  
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Re: Overcoming challenges 23 Dec 2022 18:26 #389966

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DavidT wrote on 23 Dec 2022 15:00:

Zedj wrote on 23 Dec 2022 04:00:
19 days clean
BH doing well.

800 cumulative days clean! 
I think that is pretty big!
I don't even know what to celebrate with.....how many more doughnuts do I have to eat? Is 8 not enough? 

Yes indeed! It is VERY big! Keep it up!!
There's a joke that one of reasons for eating doughnuts on Chanukkah is that you eat it one day and it burns for 8 days... So just imagine thr results of eating many doughnuts  

What a doughnut can do!

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Re: Overcoming challenges 03 Jan 2023 00:52 #390455

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BH 30 days clean!

Been sick since last week. Missed work today and will probably miss
again tomorrow.

Other than that 
Alot of good things going on.

Wishing you all well

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Re: Overcoming challenges 03 Jan 2023 02:47 #390458

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Re: Overcoming challenges 03 Jan 2023 21:03 #390490

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Zedj wrote on 06 Dec 2022 03:06:

Could it be i just like porn? 

For sure. We all do. But if you cant stop watching porn, then you may want to dig a little deeper.
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Re: Overcoming challenges 17 Jan 2023 02:12 #390932

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1 day clean

Had a fall last night.
I feel numb about it. 

My netspark subscription ended last week and I didn't have a chance to get it back up and running. (Not a great excuse)

tried to get in touch with mb smart about filtering option but didn't receive a response. 
Today sent a message to tag hopefully they will respond sometime. 

I don't really have a plan otherwise right now...

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Re: Overcoming challenges 27 Jan 2023 06:05 #391299

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What’s up bro?? Any good news? Figured out a plan yet? 
Guys the only way were really gonna get help is with H’s help so we gotta beg him for help and he sure will help us cause he wants us helped!!
CRY TO HIM!!
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