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Re: There must be a way 04 Feb 2021 21:53 #362753

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Day was ok
1 week clean
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

'the cleaner I stay, the cleaner I stay' - AlexEliezer
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Re: There must be a way 04 Feb 2021 23:43 #362761

Congrats!

Its a huge thing to get to a week. For the rest of your life, no matter how your battle goes, you can forever say that 1 week was yours and absolutely nothing can ever take that away from you.

Re: There must be a way 05 Feb 2021 06:55 #362790

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One week down!

It's time for the one week clean celebration to begin!
L'chaim! To more clean days ahead.

Thank you for being a great source of inspiration.

One who has given up hope is without a G‑d.

One who sees hope in each day is already free

Re: There must be a way 05 Feb 2021 07:13 #362794

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wilnevergiveup wrote on 02 Feb 2021 09:45:

starting wrote on 01 Feb 2021 06:33:
Was a good day

Spoke on the phone. Accountability is preventing slipping. 

Could use more motivation. Back when I was up to my nose in this I knew what I didn't want anymore. 
Now I pretty much know what do want but have forgotten a bit about the cons of lust.

So I have been slipping a bit recently and even fell once last week because I have been away too much recently. 
Need help remembering the bad times and that lust is....

Take a moment to read through your "recent post that resonates" thread and really take a moment to let each post sink in. Don't do it all in one shot maybe even one or two posts a day, but try to do it everyday for the next few days/weeks. 

You know what works for you, and you know that you don't want or need the garbage. You just need some chazarah of the obvious. Like the Mesilas Yesharim says in the hakdamah, no chidushim, just a way to keep focus on what you already know.

Chazarah, chazarah, chazarah!

All the best, 
Wilnevergiveup 

Just read this now and I love it. 
Absolutely nailed it! 

Chazarah Chazarah chazara


Read a couple of posts on my other thread, after all it's designed for extra Chazarah and chizzuk. 
Probably should have done that also when all is going good, it's better to keep the battle miles away from enemy lines... 

So, another good day b"h

The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

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Re: There must be a way 05 Feb 2021 09:11 #362796

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starting wrote on 05 Feb 2021 07:13:

wilnevergiveup wrote on 02 Feb 2021 09:45:

starting wrote on 01 Feb 2021 06:33:
Was a good day

Spoke on the phone. Accountability is preventing slipping. 

Could use more motivation. Back when I was up to my nose in this I knew what I didn't want anymore. 
Now I pretty much know what do want but have forgotten a bit about the cons of lust.

So I have been slipping a bit recently and even fell once last week because I have been away too much recently. 
Need help remembering the bad times and that lust is....

Take a moment to read through your "recent post that resonates" thread and really take a moment to let each post sink in. Don't do it all in one shot maybe even one or two posts a day, but try to do it everyday for the next few days/weeks. 

You know what works for you, and you know that you don't want or need the garbage. You just need some chazarah of the obvious. Like the Mesilas Yesharim says in the hakdamah, no chidushim, just a way to keep focus on what you already know.

Chazarah, chazarah, chazarah!

All the best, 
Wilnevergiveup 

Just read this now and I love it. 
Absolutely nailed it! 

Chazarah Chazarah chazara


Read a couple of posts on my other thread, after all it's designed for extra Chazarah and chizzuk. 
Probably should have done that also when all is going good, it's better to keep the battle miles away from enemy lines... 

So, another good day b"h


Everyone should have a thread like that. A place to store the snippets of inspiration that spoke to them personally. It becomes a powerhouse of chizuk. I have one too. It's called Shteeble's collection of inspiration. I don't know anything that motivates me more than reading through it. 

Re: There must be a way 06 Feb 2021 22:37 #362839

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Shabbos was good b"h
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

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Re: There must be a way 07 Feb 2021 20:20 #362897

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Good day b"h
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

'the cleaner I stay, the cleaner I stay' - AlexEliezer
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Re: There must be a way 08 Feb 2021 20:19 #362946

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Pretty good day in this

A lot of other pressure though which is normal for Mondays and Tuesdays these days

No worries 
Trust in the one above 
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

'the cleaner I stay, the cleaner I stay' - AlexEliezer
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Re: There must be a way 10 Feb 2021 00:38 #363052

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Pretty good day b"h

May have some time for the forum tomorrow 
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

'the cleaner I stay, the cleaner I stay' - AlexEliezer
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Re: There must be a way 10 Feb 2021 23:40 #363114

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OK day, not too great
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

'the cleaner I stay, the cleaner I stay' - AlexEliezer
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Re: There must be a way 11 Feb 2021 04:49 #363132

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I love your last post - "OK day, not too great"

It is so real, and I can literally feel your strength and perseverance! Not every day is great, but that is OK and you can still stay strong and clean. 

Keep up the great work!!

I hope the rest of your week is GREAT!

Re: There must be a way 11 Feb 2021 13:46 #363149

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Thanks for spelling that out so clearly. 
I never thought about it that way, but now I'm thinking that really, that happens so often. 
Day wasn't great, meeting wasn't great, lunch wasn't great, davening, work, anything,
But that's OK. 
Does not have to be something to dwell on, certainly not to the point of acting out... 

Clean good day today b"h
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

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Re: There must be a way 12 Feb 2021 12:13 #363227

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Pretty good day
Slightly stressful 
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

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Re: There must be a way 13 Feb 2021 22:29 #363262

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Gut voch

Clean
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

'the cleaner I stay, the cleaner I stay' - AlexEliezer
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Re: There must be a way 14 Feb 2021 18:11 #363315

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Clean
The start of 'STARting' is 'star'. Just start and you're a star!!
... and btw I really really love you! you keep me inspired!

'the cleaner I stay, the cleaner I stay' - AlexEliezer
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