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Re: Starting again!!! 01 Dec 2020 04:06 #357991

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excellence wrote on 30 Nov 2020 21:59:
oh, and i'm sure you've read markz amazing link. it is a MUST
 www.guardureyes.com/GUE/PDFs/eBooks/The%20First%20Day%20of%20the%20Rest%20of%20My%20Life.pdf

Hey I forgot about that one.
Yes it’s a must.
I like suggesting it, because it has a great story line, and who doesn’t like a ‘truth stranger than fiction’ serial 
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Re: Starting again!!! 01 Dec 2020 06:32 #357997

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How we doin buddy?

Re: Starting again!!! 01 Dec 2020 21:32 #358036

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Zedj wrote on 30 Nov 2020 23:01:
It's a very well written translation.

I'm already half way through.
Also extremely relatable.



Any other helpful and MUST have links like this?
Please send for the people's
Thank you

I highly recommend all markz links from his signature, try this too  guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/265946?limit=150#265946
markz has a number of links there.
I personally also found good stuff on the old gye site here

www.guardureyes.com/GUE/Tips/GUETips.asp


also try the threads on smart recovery they really spell out a plan on how to change.
"The pain after giving in is so much greater than the pain of not giving in"
You may find some Chizuk here: guardyoureyes.com/forum/1-Break-Free/361746-Striving-for-Excellence

A must read: 

www.guardureyes.com/GUE/PDFs/eBooks/The%20First%20Day%20of%20the%20Rest%20of%20My%20Life.pdf

Re: Starting again!!! 02 Dec 2020 02:05 #358053

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Wolskzion wrote on 01 Dec 2020 03:02:
I suggest you make an honesty pact with a friend you trust that if you fall you will let him know. It is the best method. It worked for me.

I tried that before. Didn’t work out. I don’t have friendships like that right now...
For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו.
״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״
-Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress...
Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.
- Arthur Ashe
“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

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Last Edit: 02 Dec 2020 02:40 by OivedElokim.

Re: Starting again!!! 02 Dec 2020 02:08 #358054

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I’m heading back to yeshiva. Hope to have a good run until Chanukah break. I’m going to stay in touch with some of you by phone or email. Thanks for your support 
For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו.
״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״
-Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress...
Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.
- Arthur Ashe
“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

My old thread

My current thread 

Re: Starting again!!! 02 Dec 2020 05:51 #358079

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To excellence,

This is gold!
Thank you
Last Edit: 02 Dec 2020 05:52 by Zedj.

Re: Starting again!!! 14 Dec 2020 18:22 #358683

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Hey guys.
Happy to be back here. My Chanukah break starts today, until the beginning of next week. To protect myself this bein hazmanim, I created a contract with the help of a dear GYE friend to regulate my unfiltered device usage. That’s to cover סור מרע. As far as עשה טוב goes- After I post here I will create a list of goals for the week and a daily schedule outline of all learning, davening and other activities so that I have less opportunity to fall.

Wishing you all a bright, uplifting and happy Chanukah!
For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו.
״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״
-Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress...
Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.
- Arthur Ashe
“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

My old thread

My current thread 

Re: Starting again!!! 14 Dec 2020 23:16 #358707

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Hatzlocha! Great to see u back here buddy

Re: Starting again!!! 15 Dec 2020 04:32 #358736

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I had a pretty solid first day of bein hazmanim. I met my daily learning goals, had some good social interactions, and gave out many menorah’s to Jews that didn’t yet have. Didn’t really have any struggles to report. I’m really grateful for the smooth sailing and I hope that it holds up.
מעט אור דוחה הרבה חושך
א פרייליכען חנוכה 
For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו.
״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״
-Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress...
Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.
- Arthur Ashe
“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

My old thread

My current thread 

Re: Starting again!!! 15 Dec 2020 21:23 #358784

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Welcome back!

Looks like your on a roll!

Keeping yourself busy helps alot.
Keep it up!

Re: Starting again!!! 16 Dec 2020 05:23 #358809

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Day 16.
I slept in pretty late today, but I still went to Mikva, davened with a minyan, learned with a chavrusa, met my daily learning goals, and spent my evening distributing menorahs. Pretty solid day, Bh. Besides for the occasional lustful glance, there was little struggle in guarding my eyes or my thoughts.
Gotta get to bed. Have a busy schedule planned for tomorrow...
For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו.
״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״
-Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress...
Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.
- Arthur Ashe
“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

My old thread

My current thread 

Re: Starting again!!! 17 Dec 2020 03:30 #358877

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Day #17:
Clean. Accomplished. Busy.
Not words I generally associate with bein hazmanim... Words that define my life right now.
It’s strange how fleeting my highs and lows are. By my last fall I was in a terrible emotional state for at least a week before and after. Now I am energized, happy, hopeful and focused. I pulled myself out of a rut through self-talk and pushing myself to engage with the world, by bite sized activities and goals, and social interactions. It’s unbelievable the contrast, but it also teaches me something I always knew- מוח שליט על הלב.
For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו.
״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״
-Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress...
Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.
- Arthur Ashe
“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

My old thread

My current thread 

Re: Starting again!!! 17 Dec 2020 03:32 #358878

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Amazing Amazing!
I have no words. I’m so so happy for you!
Keep shteiging and keep in touch!
Ah! Such a beautiful Kli for Hashraas HaShechina!

Re: Starting again!!! 17 Dec 2020 20:42 #358977

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Today has been slow and lethargic, but it’s not over yet. Gonna go daven mincha, light menorah, and get in a few hours of learning, productivity and connection. See y’all later.
For the background to my name- see Tanya פרק טו.
״שההפרש בין עובד אלוקים לצדיק הוא שעובד הוא לשון הווה, שהוא באמצע העבודה״
-Oived Elokim means a constant work in progress...
Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can.
- Arthur Ashe
“Every saint has a past, and every sinner has a future”.

My old thread

My current thread 

Re: Starting again!!! 18 Dec 2020 04:51 #359043

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OivedElokim wrote on 17 Dec 2020 20:42:
Today has been slow and lethargic, but it’s not over yet. Gonna go daven mincha, light menorah, and get in a few hours of learning, productivity and connection. See y’all later.

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